Erotic provocateur, racially-influenced humanist, relentless champion for the oppressed, and facilitator for social change, Scottie Lowe is the brain child, creative genius and the blood, sweat, and tears behind AfroerotiK. Intended to be part academic, part educational, and part sensual, she, yes SHE gave birth to the website to provide people of African descent a place to escape the narrow-mined, stereotypical, limiting and oft-times degrading beliefs that abound about our sexuality. No, not all Black men are driven by lust by white flesh or to create babies and walk away. No, not all Black women are promiscuous welfare queens. And as hard as it may be to believe, no, not all gay Black men are feminine, down low, or HIV positive. Scottie is putting everything on the table to discuss, debate, and dismantle stereotypes in a healthy exchange of ideas. She hopes to provide a more holistic, informed, and enlightened discussion of Black sexuality and dreams of helping couples be more open, honest, and adventurous in their relationships.

Thursday, August 17, 2006

White Male Submission

One can’t pick up a magazine or listen to a discussion about the black community these days without reading about “DL brothas”, or black men that have sex with other men while representing themselves as heterosexual. There is a homoparanoia and fear that is largely media driven that is telling black women that they need to question every black man they meet because he might be having sex with other men. Certainly, black men must be driven by their desires more than any other portion of the population because this “DL” trend is so rampant among black men, or so one is lead to believe by the books, articles, and discussions that are so prevalent today.

I have the unique opportunity to be in a position where people come to me and tell me their fantasies as a function of my career. There is a HUGE and very stealth underground sexual movement that is growing that has escaped any mainstream examination whatsoever. While black men’s sexual practices have been put under a microscope and they have been demonized in the media as sexually irresponsible and morally bankrupt latent “faggots,” white men have been able to slip under the radar, with stealth efficacy, with their sexual secrets. The numbers of white men that come to me and tell me that they have fantasies of being sexually submissive, not only to black women, but also to black men, is STAGGERING. Literally, thousands of white men have approached me in the last several years, all reiterating very much the same themes in their desires, that they believe that white people are inferior, that they want to pay for the atrocities of slavery by their sexual servitude to black people, that black people are more beautiful.

There are common themes and consistencies in their fantasies and the types of white male submissive men can be grouped into three main categories: white men that want white female partners to engage in interracial sex, white men that want black female partners and white men that want domination by both black men and black women. The first group of men, the men that want their white wives or girlfriends to engage in interracial sex, are known as cuckolds. Cuckolds are men that get arousal from having a white wife, commonly referred to as a “slut wife,” that has multiple black lovers. The husband is forced to live a life of sexual denial and servitude while the wife has sex with these so called “superior black bulls.” Servitude can include anything from getting the wife ready for her lover to cleaning her orally after her lover has ejaculated inside her, to orally or anally servicing the black lover himself. Many times, the sexual component is heightened if there is some level of implied “extortion” or money demanded of the white submissive male to perform theses homosexual acts. I’ve had innumerous white men tell me that they want their wives to be “black bred”, meaning impregnated by a black man and they are sexually aroused by the idea of their wives forcing them to raise a biracial child as their own. There’s little doubt that the origins of these fantasies are steeped in the mythical “Big Black Mandingo” stereotype as they profess love for his abnormally large penis while begging to be taunted and humiliated for their comparatively small endowment. Sexual submission is usually limited to the bedroom for these men because they seem to be able to compartmentalize the fact that they are only inferior because of their perceived, small penis and, on occasion, express regret that they have fantasies of seeing the black man as superior, even in a sexual situation.

The second category of white male submissive is the men that hold black women in the highest esteem. These men love and desire the black woman far more than white woman and very often admire the natural features of black women that have long been rejected by society at large. Big butts, dark skin, full lips, natural hair, and sassy and domineering attitudes are the attributes that they most readily describe as the epitome of beauty, black or otherwise. The number of occasions when white men have said they want a black wife to pamper and provide for, to put her on a pedestal as the true mother of all civilization, are too numerous to mention. Many times, they reiterate the same sorts of fantasies of the cuckold husband: they want her to have a black lover, but more often than not, they describe feelings of inadequacy because they believe they are unable to satisfy or undeserving of having sex with a black woman. They describe fantasies whereby they are forced by a black woman to engage homosexual acts as an act of punishment or for her amusement. They reiterate they same sorts of fantasies about cleaning Black woman of ejaculate deposited by her lover, being denied orgasm, being “forced” to humble themselves before the black man to show their unworthiness and inferior status. The instances of white men telling me that they want to serve as human toilet to black women are so commonplace, so frequent, I don’t blink an eye any longer when the topic is broached. These men describe how it would be an honor to receive the waste of a black woman and how it is their duty as a white male to do so. Many desire to be subjected to perform household duties for black women, seemingly with no sexual gratification in return, only the desire to be humiliated for their whiteness. Most desire to form lifelong, loving relationships with Black women as adoring pets or servants and most refer to themselves as slaves.

The third category of white male submissive is interested whatever forms of degradation they can receive from whatever Black source that sees fit to dish it out. They are unashamedly bisexual and, in many cases, prefer to perform sexual acts with black men. Among this group are the most masochistic of the population. They are constantly asking for approval and validation that they truly are inferior to black people. They confess that they want to become slaves, stripped of their rights as a human, that they want to pay for the sins of any white person that owned slaves, and that they want to be degraded and humiliated for their whiteness. Their fantasies are extreme, many expressing desires to be lynched and beaten reminiscent of true slavery as part of their sexual fantasies. Many tell me that they desire to become black and have romantic notions that they will become well-endowed athletes or big-bosomed matriarchal archetypes. Several have requested books to read to tell them of a more accurate Black history than the limited exposure they’ve received. I’ve had white men tell me that they go out of their way to hire black people, support black businesses, or provide daily acts of kindness to black people as their own personal form of reparations. Oddly, this trend is not limited to America; European men make up a large percentage of this population.

These examples are the norm not the extreme and I’m confronted with these examples on a daily basis. This isn’t just limited to the heterosexual community; I’ve encountered many gay men that have expressed comparable desires. It should be noted that almost 100% of the time, white men use the singular adjective black to describe the collective of people rather than as a descriptor. i.e. “I want my wife to fuck black, I am attracted to black, I am a slave for black” rather than the proper usage, “I am attracted to black women, I want my wife to fuck black men, I desire to be submissive to black people.” Their grammatical objectification of us is but a minor indication that they have yet to shatter the racist beliefs that they claim so boldly to have done.

If there is any level of validity in my findings, my observations lead me to believe that there is no concurrent movement by black people whereby we, on any sort of collective basis, are expressing desires to make white people pay for the atrocities of slavery or to restore a Black supremist racial hierarchy and to do so by the sexual subjugation of white people. We seem to be naively playing into the role of dominatrix and Black bull and walking away from the experience and not being particularly braggadocios about them either. Those few African American individuals that have confided in me of experiences with submissive white men seem to take pity on them that they are so warped in their thinking that they could actually believe that black people could be superior. In my amateur anthropological opinion, these black people feel guilty for holding a position of power over white men, even if it’s only sexually and for brief periods of time. I’ve yet to meet the black person that has engaged in a sexual liaison with a submissive white man that has truly recognized the larger political implications. Many black women have seen this as an opportunity to capitalize on their “most coveted object” status and made attempts to use white men for money, which seem to backfire more often than not according to their tales. While very few black men confide in me about their experiences with submissive white men, (and one can only assume from the reports of white men that the numbers of black men that are engaging in these behaviors are equally as staggering) I can only assume that they feel some sort of temporary reprieve from the stresses and strains of a racist society while engaged in the act, and as they go on about their daily lives, they replace their societally-imposed veil of powerlessness, never recognizing that their true power does not lie in their penis. Black people, still largely ignorant of our own past, the origins of African greatness, and still largely brainwashed to believe that white people are better, are sadly, too uninformed to assert that they will not be made pawns in a sexual game to rid white people of their guilt or fulfill their dark continent lust.

There are a multitude of larger implications that are happening beneath this absolutely HUGE movement that need to be discussed and simply can’t be unless the topic is put on the table so that society at large can examine the trend and not have it kept as white America’s dirty little secret. First and foremost, these men are still, for the most part, holding onto racist, stereotypical and degrading beliefs about Black people while they are insisting that their desire to submit to black people indicates that they are free from all such beliefs. They assume that because they are sexually attracted to Black people that automatically means they are not racist. Many white men claim they used to harbor racist beliefs and some sexual event with a black person cured them of their racism, which is obviously an absurd assumption. If these white men are in fact engaging in sexual acts with black men as they claim, then the source and spread of HIV in the Black community needs to be examined. These white men should be spreading the virus to their partners in equal proportions to black men.

I imagine that there are scores of therapists, counselors, sex workers, medical practitioners and journalists in this country that have the same knowledge as I. Why aren’t there medical journals and articles that are discussing this trend and the psychological implications? Where are the 20/20 and Dateline exposes, where are the radio talk shows that are discussing this phenomenon, why isn’t every magazine warning white women about the potential hazards of white men that are engaging in unsafe sex with black men? Given the current political climate in this country, with this move to the ultra-moral, ultra-conservative right, what conclusions can one draw about this population of white men that have this race-driven guilty, envy, and lust? Are there white men that are secretly harboring these sexual desires in positions of power and exacting stricter punishments on black men to assuage them of their desires to “submit to black?”

Race in America is still and extremely volatile topic. If there are, as I’ve experienced, multitudes of white men that are having these types of fantasies and desires, there needs to be an open and honest discussion in a public forum to determine the origins, the implications, and to form support groups and allegiances to address the very important issues that these types of issues bring to the table. White men are begging, even if it is only privately, to be immersed in a black sexual experience, and they are being led by individuals that don’t have the ability to train, instruct and accurately inform. This issue can not be swept under the table because it upsets the equilibrium of the status quo. White men are desiring to be submissive to Black people in phenomenal numbers and the reasons why and the social implications thereof must be discussed.

Copyright 2004 Scottie Lowe
CEO and Founder of AfroerotiK


michael said...

Wow, what insight, i never thought that deeply about my need to be a slave to an African American Women. i am naturally submissive to all Females but i do have a preference for Black Women.
Like You said big ass, lips, and domineering aggressive manner is what i adore about African American Women. Also the larger than average Goddess like Serena Williams i would (as You mentioned) feel honored to be Her toilet, and slave w/ no sex allowed, because i am not worthy of sex w/ a Woman especially a Blck Goddess. However i have no interest in men.

JohnInBuffalo said...

Interesting, indeed. I can identify with a lot of this as a white male except for the sexual link.

After having been loved by black women I find white women quite shallow, superficial. I adore black women and put them on pedestals because after 50 years with white women, primarily, any black woman who will invest her true affection on me deserves to be treated like a Goddess. I'm not into men.

HungryinTampa said...

I agree with everything you said, your article was extremely insightful. It is so true being a fairly successful white male, I crave submission to both black women and men. In my experience they are just sexually superior beings. They should be worshipped and free to use submissive whites as they like. Given the chance I think almost all white males would submit.

John said...

I could not agree more with Hungry in Tampa. I have white guilt...There was an article in the LA Times that talked about how white people voted for Obama in order to assuage their guilt. We want Black men and women to be in charge. I want to pay reperations and sexually I want to submit to them, especially black men! I have always felt sexually inferior to them.

I am with you Tampa, most white men would willingly submit and worship them. I would, if they would only take their rightful place!

sgacountry said...

I am a gay wht guy and definitely know blk guys are dominant physically and sexually to whts. Eventhough I am a big muscled worked out dude, It is natural for me to be submiisive to blk men. All my experience has shown blk men to be far superior sexually and physically. And if a wht guy doesnt want to be submissive at first, it is only a matter of time before he will give in to the natural order. Ive realized the blk sexual and physical superiority for years and glad to see so many other wht guys finally accepting it.. An out of town vistor recently asked me, What was up with so many of the hot wht guys running after blk guys like little silly girls. I only smiled!

Pedro Guerra said...

I am a straight white male and I have a black girlfriend. We've been together for three years now and we engage in role-play where she behaves as my slave and I behave as her slave master.

I call her "monkey", "nig*ger", "animal", etc.

Sexual experimentation is an essential component of a successful relationship. This "more extreme" acts of kinkiness allows us to bond in a way that I never did with a white woman before.

She expresses feelings similar to what white men here express: she sees whites as superior and blacks as an unevolved race (in comparison to whites).

Perhaps at the root of her fetish lies a seed of self-hatred. But I suppose the same is true for white men who want to be dominated by black men or black women.

This article is extremely enlightening and well-written. There is a fantastic documentary about Cuckold Whites and Black Bulls called "Mandingo", from Vice Magazine.

I heartily recommend it.

"And if a wht guy doesnt want to be submissive at first, it is only a matter of time before he will give in to the natural order."

I find it amazing that you censor the words white and black. Also, this projection, although I understand is supposed to make you feel better, stems from nothing but speculation and wishful thinking.

You really think Neo-Nazis would submit to blacks? Grow up, son.

Anonymous said...

I don't think it's true at all. I'm paying a 6'8" black top with a 9 inch long beautiful cock $2000 to come to my town overnight so I can sneak around and spend two hours with him night one and four hours the next morning sucking his enormous wand and licking black balls and I will bring a dildo of the same size and color for him to fuck me with unless I ask him to fuck my cherry to pieces. I gave him these things to do all with condoms and said that those along with spanking my ass, mouth fucking me, slapping my balls, finger fucking me and ass-to-mouth with dildo, cock if we go there, or fingers, and rubbing, nasty fondling, and dirty talk are things I am ok with and he can do or not at his choosing.

Scottie Lowe said...

And I'm sure you think that means you aren't racist.

Jay Banker said...

I am a masculine and athletic white man who started noticing that when I view porn I always gravitate to Black men with white girls. At first it was just about the contrast of skin colors and the taboo aspect of interracial sex. However, I started fantasizing about my girlfriend making me a submissive sissy cuckold maid to her and her Black lovers.

I also like the idea of being feminized and being used to serve the Dominant Black Man!

Is this just a fantasy, or is it really part of my sexual identity?

AfroerotiK said...

Sex with animals is taboo.

Sex with children is taboo.

Sex with dead bodies is taboo.

White women having sex with Latino men is not taboo.

White women having sex with Asian men is not taboo.

There is nothing taboo about an adult Black man and an adult white woman having sex unless you view Black men as animals.

Stuart Geisler said...

I just read Franz Fanon, and wonder how it relates to all this.....