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Erotic provocateur, racially-influenced humanist, relentless champion for the oppressed, and facilitator for social change, Scottie Lowe is the brain child, creative genius and the blood, sweat, and tears behind AfroerotiK. Intended to be part academic, part educational, and part sensual, she, yes SHE gave birth to the website to provide people of African descent a place to escape the narrow-mined, stereotypical, limiting and oft-times degrading beliefs that abound about our sexuality. No, not all Black men are driven by lust by white flesh or to create babies and walk away. No, not all Black women are promiscuous welfare queens. And as hard as it may be to believe, no, not all gay Black men are feminine, down low, or HIV positive. Scottie is putting everything on the table to discuss, debate, and dismantle stereotypes in a healthy exchange of ideas. She hopes to provide a more holistic, informed, and enlightened discussion of Black sexuality and dreams of helping couples be more open, honest, and adventurous in their relationships.

Showing posts with label manhood. Show all posts
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Thursday, February 09, 2023

What is a woman?

 



 


AfroerotiK doctrine defines a woman as purely a manifestation of biology; a woman is a hu-man with a womb, a womb-man. Period. A woman, according to AfroerotiK principle, is born with a vagina, a uterus, ovaries, and two XX chromosomes. Life is created and nurtured in the womb, all life comes through the birth canal of a woman.  A woman is a biological determination, nothing more.


 


Society has defined women for millennia, with a malicious agenda. Before a child is born, they are assigned a gender, boy or girl, and the role they are to assume in life is set. Girls like pink, boys like blue, and all the other false beliefs we have been brainwashed to believe about gender is set in stone by the time we take our first breath.  Women, in today’s society, are seen as less than . . .  less than men. Women are supposed to be subservient, weak, a slave to our emotions, and we are seen as genetically undeserving of the same rights, protections, and autonomy as men, just because we don’t have a penis. 


 


Women’s role in society has been carefully crafted, by malevolent forces, to be seen as, treated as, and relegated to less than men.  Women should expect to be paid less, women are supposed to accept not having their voices heard.  Women are supposed to assume that being hit, raped, abused, and abandoned with children are part of the status of having a womb. A woman, according to society, should be ashamed, she should be considered a freak if she’s not feminine, dainty, demure, and submissive.  But those are all definitions assigned and defined by (white) men, not God. 


 


We’ve been told that women like “girly” things, like dresses, and dolls, and make up. The very definition of a woman is that she is supposed to have a man protect her.  We’ve been brainwashed to believe that women shouldn’t like sports, that she should like cooking and cleaning and waiting on men hand and foot, that to be a woman is to be nurturing and submissive.  We have been told that the very first profession was a woman trading her body for money, relegating her to a sex object, a thing for men to purchase, trade, and discard when they’ve gotten what they want from her. First and foremost, that’s patently untrue. Money did not exist at the time of the first people.  Sex was not considered a sin until white men deemed it to be so.  Prostitution was not the first profession. However, with that very false belief that women have always been manipulative and scheming whores, women are relegated to nothing more than the status of gold digger, manipulator, and pawn in a game controlled and run by people with penises. The definition of a woman, how women are supposed to navigate the world and how women are treated has been created, grafted, and enforced by people with no wombs.  


 


Women are supposed to be feminine.  That’s the rule.  Femininity doesn’t exist in nature, however.  Female lions don’t sit patiently in the pride waiting for the big strong male to kill the antelope.  Female bears don’t get their nails done while the male bears go out and provide.  Female birds don’t fly on the inside of the flock to be protected by the male birds.  Male penguins nurture and care for their babies while the mothers go off an frolic in the icy waters.  Femininity, and masculinity, are male-created, male-perpetuated concepts.  Femininity is not a natural law; women are not naturally docile, weak, or emotional.  We’ve been told what women are, and are not, what women are supposed to be, do, feel, think, and be treated, and we conform. 


 


Societal forces, those manipulating and pulling the strings of this Matrix, of this false reality, have defined what a woman is, thus creating this “woke versus conservative” debate that challenges the very definition of a woman.  We’ve been told for thousands of years what a woman is to the point where we don’t question the definition of what a woman is, thus pitting us against one another to debate who can and should be considered a woman. 


 


Those who fall on the righteous and inclusive end of the spectrum, those who are still misguided and manipulated by the architects of society, assert that anyone who FEELS like a woman should be considered a woman.  The problem with that is in how we define how a woman should feel.  It was men, not God, not a divine being, who determined what women were supposed to think, how women were to supposed to dress and behave and feel. God did not create dresses, high heels, make up, or pantyhose. Those are creations of man, people with penises, who decided that ONLY women could wear those things. 


 


Nowhere in the bible does it say that only women can wear pink, lace, panty hose, skirts, or stilettos because all those things were created by men.   It was man who decided that men were only supposed to wear denim, wool, blue, and gray pants.  But we don’t question that premise, instead we argue that anyone can be a woman who feels like a woman. 


 


And who takes advantage of that most?  The white men who refuse to accept responsibility and accountability for their bisexuality LOVE, LOVE, LOVE to assert that they are sissies, meaning men who aren’t “real men”, men who are somehow supposed to be women behind closed doors because they love sex with other men.  But they aren’t women.  They don’t feel like women, they don’t possess the traits associated with women.  Society doesn’t treat them like women.  They don’t have to navigate the world being considered less than a man.  The second those white men, those sissies go out into the world, presenting as men, they fall right back in line with the patriarchy, and they actively work to oppress women and maintain the status quo.  Are there men who live as women in society and who bear the same burdens as people with wombs?  Yes!  They suffer more than women in most instances because they are murdered for not being masculine.  That is . . . I’m not even sure I have words for the transphobia that exists in this society.  It’s beyond evil.  Not so much for the pawns, the individuals who have been brainwashed to believe what makes a man a man and a woman a woman, but the architects of this society, who brainwashed us with a religion that would allow someone to hate another person for not conforming to the lies that have been shoved down our throats for millennia. 


 


We’ve been told that women like “girly” things, like dresses, and dolls, and make up. Here’s a rule of thumb you need to consider.  If the Creator of All didn’t make it, if the Creator of All didn’t create a dress, a doll, panties, high heels, a pocketbook, false eyelashes, or a wig found in nature, then the Creator of All doesn’t give a fuck if you wear it and it absolutely doesn’t define your gender or your sexuality or even your morality if you do. 


 


The very definition of a woman is that she is supposed to have a man protect her.  We’ve been brainwashed to believe that women shouldn’t like sports, that she should like cooking and cleaning and waiting on men hand and foot, that to be a woman is to be nurturing and submissive.  We have been told that the very first profession was a woman trading her body for money, relegating her to a sex object, a thing for men to purchase, trade, and discard when they’ve gotten what they want from her. First, that’s patently untrue.  Prostitution was not the first profession. However, with that very false belief, women are relegated to nothing more than the status of gold digger, manipulator, and pawn in a game controlled and run by people with penises. The definition of a woman, how women are supposed to navigate the world and how women are treated has been created, grafted, and enforced by people with no wombs.   


 


What would happen if women believed that they were equal to men from birth?  What sort of world would we live in if women knew that they were able to be as physically strong as men?  Our brains reject that sort of imagery because we’ve been so brainwashed we think the world would de-evolve into chaos, that it would signal the end times.  Well, what if men didn’t have to be seen as aggressive and violent and masculine, if they were allowed to show vulnerability, empathy, compassion, and even tenderness?  We, the victims of this charade, have to redefine what it means to be a woman and a man.  Let’s start with the biology, a woman is a human with a womb, and a man is a person with a penis and leave it there.  Anything after that, is what we decide.  And let’s decide that humanity is loving, that we treat each other with respect, the way we want to be treated and leave gender roles in the past. 


 


The problem lies in the fact that women are not genetically predisposed to be weaker than men, to be more nurturing, to be softer, more docile, or even like pink more than people with penises.  We are told that men who are nurturing, emotional, and not aggressive are not real men.  That is the problem.  The problem is, has been, will continue to be how we have normalized gender, a biological determination, as a status a role we must play in life.  As long as we say that women are not supposed to . . . fill in the blank with a behavior that is long-considered male, we will be enslaved to insanity. 


 


Every attribute ascribed to women, every role, the status of women in society, how individuals with wombs define themselves has been manipulated by puppet masters to rationalize and justify the objectification and oppression of individuals with wombs. 


 


The socially-conditioned and conformative “conservatives” don’t want to question or examine the roles that have been ascribed to men or women and they are willing to die, more aptly, they are willing to kill anyone who doesn’t believe exactly as they do, to hold on to those lies.  Conservative must be in quotes because they are, behind closed doors, engaging in the exact behaviors that they condemn others for.  They are blinded by the Matrix, convinced that reality can only be constructed of the edicts of the bible and they are willing to make everything fit their bigoted and fallacious thinking, even when they cross dress, or use strapons, or create fake profiles pretending to be someone other than what they are. 


 


Men have tear ducts.  That means, men are supposed to cry.  It does not mean they are weak if they cry, it means that the human body is supposed to process emotions by releasing tears.  It does not mean a man is gay if he cries.  It does not have any determination of a man’s character if he sheds tears.  But we tell boys, little boys, in the most formative years of their lives, that if they cry, they are sissies and weak and gay.  Crying does not, cannot, will not make a man want to suck a dick.  Crying is a normal biological response that every human being should be able to express without it defining their sexuality or character.  But we do.  We say that if a man cries, he’s weak.  We conform to the Matrix. 


 


Anal stimulation is pleasurable for every human being.  PERIOD.  Anal stimulation is pleasurable because our bodies are designed to feel pleasure from the nerves endings in our anus.  Read these words carefully.  The human body is designed, it is created to feel pleasure when stimulated anally.  The human body experiences pleasure when stimulated anally and that is not a function of one’s morality, religion, sexual identity, or a choice.  GOD created our bodies to feel pleasure when stimulated anally.  How can I say that?  Because if our bodies weren’t supposed to feel pleasure when stimulated anally, we wouldn’t.  We simply wouldn’t feel pleasure when we were stimulated anally because it wouldn’t be the way our bodies were designed. 


 


We’ve been convinced that men can’t feel pleasure anally because . . . they’re men, because we believe it’s a moral choice to like anal stimulation and that anyone who does is a deviant.  That’s insane.  We’ve been convinced that REAL men don’t experience pleasure anally when our bodies were designed to experience anal pleasure.  Real men are supposed to be macho, masculine, real men are supposed to be aggressive and violent even, we glorify those traits in people born with penises and we emphatically state that if a man likes anal stimulation, he’s less than a man.  God created our bodies to experience anal pleasure, man, a literal human male, decided that people with penises have to be hyper masculine and macho and that if he liked anal stimulation that made him less of a man.  And I hate to be the bearer of bad news, but that decision was made to control you, to make you feel fear, shame, and guilt for enjoying what your body was designed to enjoy. 


 


All the inclusive liberals, who haven’t even read this far, are screaming that I’m . . . whatever the term is for people who don’t want to define woman as a person who feels like a woman.  I’m not saying a person can’t decide that they don’t fit the gender role that society has created for whatever body they were born in.  I’m saying that as long as we define women as gentle, submissive, weak, emotional, feminine, and less than men, we are consuming the very drug that poisons our society.  Men shouldn’t have to be defined as liking sports and trucks and guns, all of those things are man-made, not divine.  Flowers were created by God but men are told they are gay if they say they like flowers.  When God created the color pink, there was no rule or law or commandment from on high that deemed that only people with wombs could like that color. 


 


Doctors, doctors who perform gender reassignment surgery, KNOW full well that gender is a social construct.  They know that feeling feminine, regardless of how socially constructed the concept is, is not a determination of gender but rather it is a human desire to want to feel attractive, desired, and sexually attractive.  They, the master manipulators, have created the rift that pits those who defend the bible against those who recognize that feeling “like a woman” is valid.  Men are supposed to feel vulnerable, soft, nurturing.  But because they have been cut off from those natural feelings, they act out in the most horrific ways.  And any man who acknowledges feeling those things is considered a woman.  But that’s not what makes a person a woman. 


 


Giving birth does not make a person a woman.  I’ve never given birth and I’m a woman.  Having a period does not make a person a woman.  I haven’t had a period for more than 4 years, HALLELUYAH, and I’m a woman.  Having a uterus does not make a person a woman, because having a hysterectomy removes your reproductive organs.  Women are people born with vaginas; men are people born with penises.  Yes, there are those who are born with ambiguous genitalia and they should be considered something other thana  man or a woman.  But the kicker is, they shouldn’t be defined by society as to what color they like and if they have to give up their name when they get married or if they should get paid less than a person with clearly defined genitalia. 


 


The ONLY thing that makes a person a woman is the presence of a womb at birth.  All the feelings, roles, status, and sexual desires and stigmas that have been assigned to women have been manipulated by society, not a white man in the sky who determined that if a piece of material is sewn into pants, a man can wear it and if it’s sewn into a skirt, only a woman can wear it, but an actual white man who felt weak and needed to create roles and identities for women so that he could feel more powerful.  Women can be physically strong, mentally strong, we can be a strategical and logistical mastermind, women can be anything we want.  It’s only society that has convinced us that women are weak and soft. 


 


How many women, how many Black women, are CONVINCED that they have to get married in a white dress, and spend thousands of dollars on that wedding dress, and the man has to make the money and support her, and all the lies associated with what it means to be a woman? We don’t even know the origin of the practices that we hold so dear, we simply say, “It’s in the bible,” when it really isn’t.  I had a Black woman, a grown woman, tell me once that she had never put gas in her own car because that as a man’s job.  She said her grandmother never did it and she was never going to do it because it was a man’s job to take care of her.  I know, I know.  White women are guilty of the same thing. White women are guilty of much worse conformity to dysfunctional behavior because society is built around the fragility of the white woman.  I don’t give a fuck about white women’s dysfunctional beliefs though.  I care the Black women are conforming to intentionally debilitating beliefs, beliefs that are detrimental to our survival as a community. 


 


I care that Black men are saying that, “That’s gay,” to benign, normal behaviors because they have become so brainwashed by the lies and manipulations of gender roles.  Black men, dear lord Black men are the most invested in holding on to traditional gender roles.  They NEED someone to oppress in order to feel powerful in a society that has robbed them of their autonomy.  Society has done a great job of making Black men out to be the most masculine men, the most coveted, the most feared, the most desired and the most hated . . . for their bigger dicks and muscular bodies and their inherent sexual prowess.  But that’s not what should define a man.  Manhood should be about accepting responsibility for your actions, being emotionally mature, being accountable for your mistakes.  Manhood has nothing to do with how many women you fuck or driving a truck. We have been bamboozled.  We have been fed a bill of goods about what life is about.  We tell men that they can create a life with someone and that all they have to do is provide financially.  We, as a community, as a society, are handicapped by that belie system that doesn’t allow men to know the joy of parenthood, of nurturing and shaping a life that loves you unconditionally.  Everything about masculinity is detrimental to our society.  Everything.  There is no inherent value in violence, aggression, or being unemotional. 


 


I don’t care who identifies as a woman, or a man for that matter.  I support anyone and everyone who says that the role society has defined for them is oppressive and they demand to break free.  It is my strong belief that we, as a society, should broaden our definition of what makes a man a man and a woman a woman so that we don’t have to struggle with shame, fear, and guilt for not conforming to the lies and dysfunction relegated by the master manipulators.  A human being has the right to define themselves as anything they want.  It is my sincere hope that we start expanding the definition of what it means to be a man and a woman beyond gender roles and allow men to be nurturing and emotional, we allow women to be strong and powerful.  What an amazing place it will be when we live in a world where human beings are allowed to express all their emotions, potential, and expressions of self without absurd, ridiculous man-made rules of gender. 

Monday, April 08, 2013

The Black Man’s Manifesto for the New Millennium





Brought to you by AfroerotiK

I AM a Strong Black man and as such  . . .

  • I will carry myself with the grace, dignity and character of a king at all times.

  • I will speak to women as human beings, not as potential sex partners, not as someone with less value than myself, not someone I must dominate in order to validate my manhood. 

  • I will not plan out how I can get a woman into bed before I even introduce myself. 

  • I will not judge a woman’s beauty, worth or value by the length of her hair, the length of her fingernails, the roundness of her behind or the size of her feet, and most importantly, the color of her skin, just as I would not want to be judged by the length of my penis, the size of my wallet, the car I drive, or the amount of money I make.   

  • I will make every effort to make sure women know that they are safe when they are in my presence.  I will not touch, grope, or physically intimidate them and I will not make unwanted sexual advances towards them.

  • I will NOT strike, restrain, or threaten a woman. 

  • I will accept that if a woman says no, she means she’s not interested in me sexually and that is her right.  I will never force a woman to have sex with me.  

  • I will ask my women friends, sisters and acquaintances what makes them feel undervalued, unappreciated and objectified and I will listen closely and make efforts to correct those things that I do wrong.

  • When a woman tells me something is insensitive, demeaning, or offensive, I will not dismiss it immediately as male bashing.  I will take her critique just as I would expect someone to consider mine. 

  • I will find something other than a woman’s looks to compliment her about.  I will make note of her intellect, her personality, her ideas, her imagination, and her accomplishments.

  • I will acknowledge that my mother, sister, and daughters are black women, deserving of respect, and I will work to treat ALL Black women as I would have other men treat the women in my life. 

  • I will accept responsibility for my wrongdoings, I will not lie in an attempt to get away with my misdeeds, I will apologize when I’ve done something wrong and I will deal with the consequences of my actions by facing them head on.  

  • I will not partake in conversations with other men when they are ridiculing women’s looks, bodies, or opinions.

  • I will remove the words bitch, ho, trick, chicken head, and all other derogatory names for women from my vocabulary because I recognize them to be sexist and degrading.

  • I will not refer to sex with a woman as hitting it, killing it, stabbing it, or anything that has violent connotations nor will it diminish the humanity of a woman by referring to sex with her as getting “it” or getting “some”

  • I will not define my manhood by the length of my penis, I will define my manhood as fulfilling promises I keep, in having integrity, in choosing mature solutions to problems and how I can be honest even when it’s difficult.

  • I will speak out when I see other men disrespecting women. 

  • I will honor my daughters as much as my sons.

  • I will not refer to myself as a pimp, a dog, a thug, or a baller because I will not let racist stereotypes define me.

  • I will learn how to communicate my feelings rather than deny I have them or trying to suppress them with sex, drugs, adrenaline, or alcohol. 

Copyright 2007 Scottie Lowe