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Erotic provocateur, racially-influenced humanist, relentless champion for the oppressed, and facilitator for social change, Scottie Lowe is the brain child, creative genius and the blood, sweat, and tears behind AfroerotiK. Intended to be part academic, part educational, and part sensual, she, yes SHE gave birth to the website to provide people of African descent a place to escape the narrow-mined, stereotypical, limiting and oft-times degrading beliefs that abound about our sexuality. No, not all Black men are driven by lust by white flesh or to create babies and walk away. No, not all Black women are promiscuous welfare queens. And as hard as it may be to believe, no, not all gay Black men are feminine, down low, or HIV positive. Scottie is putting everything on the table to discuss, debate, and dismantle stereotypes in a healthy exchange of ideas. She hopes to provide a more holistic, informed, and enlightened discussion of Black sexuality and dreams of helping couples be more open, honest, and adventurous in their relationships.

Wednesday, October 25, 2006

Has the Black community given up on love?















Has the Black community given up on the concept of love? Are we now solely focused on self and what someone can do for us rather than building a partnership based on love? What is love? Do Black men and women know how to love one another anymore? What does a healthy, loving relationship consist of? What are the things that make up a healthy loving relationship? What will it take for us to believe in love again or are people too damaged to even know how to form a relationship based on love?

Share your thoughts and opinions.

3 comments:

Sylvia Hubbard said...

answered back in bold Has the Black community given up on the concept of love? I really believe the black community has lost its way in the search of true unconditional love and most blacks have no idea what it is or how it really feels to be loved.Are we now solely focused on self and what someone can do for us rather than building a partnership based on love? Yes. We have become selfish in my opinionWhat is love? just a feeling, an emotion, a basis of how we react to certain things Do Black men and women know how to love one another anymore? they have lost sight on how to really love openingly and honestly. What does a healthy, loving relationship consist of? communication, honesty, two way respect and thoughtfulnessWhat are the things that make up a healthy loving relationship? see last answerWhat will it take for us to believe in love again or are people too damaged to even know how to form a relationship based on love? unfortunately as humans, we must suffer in order to cherish what is so rare in life. most people go through bad things in order to appreciate the good things

Anonymous said...

Has the Black community given up on the concept of love? Are we now solely focused on self and what someone can do for us rather than building a partnership based on love? Black people are dying to be loved. In this society they just aren't given the necessary tools needed to express this need to be connected with someone. Though historically Black people held love and loyalty for one another in order to survive, I believe in the last few decades we have lost our way in the name of pursuing the American dream. Many are focused on reaping rewards after being constantly barraged with oppressive situations. They just want the emotional pain to stop, so they don't look for love; they look for instant gratification.

What is love? A deep emotional and mental attachment to someone. Love is a choice to care for, commit to (this does not equate to monogamy if we're talking about romantic love), listen to, value someone. Basically, bell hooks in her book "All About Love" gave a beautiful summary.

Do Black men and women know how to love one another anymore? Some conscious Black people do. But has deep love ALWAYS been the case in Black communities? We may have stuck together because times were hard, but was there genuine love, on a mass scale? We are a wounded people, and we need love to overcome the rest of our hurdles in a racist society. If we didn't have it then, we definitely need it now.
What does a healthy, loving relationship consist of? What are the things that make up a healthy loving relationship? Compatibility, Intimacy, Attraction on some level.
What will it take for us to believe in love again or are people too damaged to even know how to form a relationship based on love? If you don't have love/togetherness then you don't have life, just existence. That’s what many Black people are doing, existing. This of course is a crisis. I believe the next stage in the Black Movement will be focused on mental and emotional well being, with obesity, depression, addiction. Somebody needs to come out and say that this is killing us just as much as lynching did. I saw a documentary were Black children choose the white doll...it was made THIS YEAR. Get this message out in the open, somebody will wake up. They will discover the need to love, and with Black love comes Black revolution. I don't think we are too damaged.

EV said...

The comments above are very much on point. I would like to add that in order to get "LOVE" one must know how to be a giver of love.

This is where many of us fail.

When we, as a collective, learn to give love freely, we will recieve it in abundance.


EV