AfroerotiK

Erotic provocateur, racially-influenced humanist, relentless champion for the oppressed, and facilitator for social change, Scottie Lowe is the brain child, creative genius and the blood, sweat, and tears behind AfroerotiK. Intended to be part academic, part educational, and part sensual, she, yes SHE gave birth to the website to provide people of African descent a place to escape the narrow-mined, stereotypical, limiting and oft-times degrading beliefs that abound about our sexuality. No, not all Black men are driven by lust by white flesh or to create babies and walk away. No, not all Black women are promiscuous welfare queens. And as hard as it may be to believe, no, not all gay Black men are feminine, down low, or HIV positive. Scottie is putting everything on the table to discuss, debate, and dismantle stereotypes in a healthy exchange of ideas. She hopes to provide a more holistic, informed, and enlightened discussion of Black sexuality and dreams of helping couples be more open, honest, and adventurous in their relationships.

Friday, May 16, 2014

Self-Deception



The human mind is a fascinating mechanism.  Self-deception is its most adept function.  It allows an individual to see dysfunction in others and remain completely blind to their own dysfunction and mental illness.  The human mind will misinterpret information so that whatever you say, think and do is perceived as right and perfect and justified.  It is virtually impossible to see your own fuckedupness so you walk around believing that you don’t have to change, evolve, or grow, that everyone else does.   Moreover, when you do something wrong, the human mind has the ability to twist the way you perceive things so that you can blame others for what you do wrong and feel like you are the one wronged, maligned, and that your actions were perfectly justified. 

It’s not just a few people, it’s everyone.  YOU are wrong, you are flawed, you are dysfunctional, and it’s very possible that you could be mentally ill and walking around thinking that you are perfect.  Yes, YOU!  As much as you want to believe that there is nothing wrong with you and that everyone else is wrong, you are the one dead wrong.  You have areas of your personality that need to be healed, addressed, and transformed.  We are ALL in a state of dysfunction.  The drama and the issues in your life aren’t other people’s fault, they are yours.  Your need to degrade and humiliate other people because you think they are completely fucked up is a reflection of you being fucked up. You can see other people’s flaws but you can’t see your own.  If you spend your time looking for other people’s faults and flaws, if you can see how damaged other people are, all the while believing that you are without even a tiny blemish, even if you can say that you aren’t perfect but you have done no work whatsoever to change your core belief systems, you are incredibly flawed. 

Being mentally ill doesn’t mean you are a bad person.  Not being able to see your own flaws does not mean you are beyond repair.  It’s very possible that the flaws you see in others MAY be valid, but your assignment in this lifetime is not to point out to others their flaws, it’s to heal yours. 

So if everyone is fucked up, if everyone is guilty of being flawed and seeing themselves as perfect, what’s the solution?  The solution is one you aren’t going to agree with or think will help or consider as valid.  Mediation is the answer.  Meditation allows you to align with a higher consciousness.  Lowering your brainwaves for 15 minutes a day starts the healing process.  Controlling your breathing, slowing down your thoughts will start you on the path to becoming the person you are supposed to be.     Meditate for 21 days straight and you will start to vibrate at higher level and you will walk away from that disagreement, you won’t let that other person’s dysfunction get to you.  The more you meditate, the more you will ascend.  You don’t have to believe me, you don’t have to give up your life and become a Zen monk.  If you are reading this, you are open to enlightenment and you will hold this information somewhere in your consciousness until you are ready to integrate it into your life. 

Peace and many blessings,

Scottie

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