AfroerotiK

Erotic provocateur, racially-influenced humanist, relentless champion for the oppressed, and facilitator for social change, Scottie Lowe is the brain child, creative genius and the blood, sweat, and tears behind AfroerotiK. Intended to be part academic, part educational, and part sensual, she, yes SHE gave birth to the website to provide people of African descent a place to escape the narrow-mined, stereotypical, limiting and oft-times degrading beliefs that abound about our sexuality. No, not all Black men are driven by lust by white flesh or to create babies and walk away. No, not all Black women are promiscuous welfare queens. And as hard as it may be to believe, no, not all gay Black men are feminine, down low, or HIV positive. Scottie is putting everything on the table to discuss, debate, and dismantle stereotypes in a healthy exchange of ideas. She hopes to provide a more holistic, informed, and enlightened discussion of Black sexuality and dreams of helping couples be more open, honest, and adventurous in their relationships.

Thursday, July 30, 2009

Only in Rio

Black men are going to Brazil in droves to experience uninhibited sex with the women there. To hear them tell the tale, the women there are BEAUTIFUL, putting us lowly American Black women to shame. To all the men who feel the need to travel to Brazil for "sex vacations," let me say to you, that if you find women with African features and brown skin so repulsive, women who look like your mother and sisters, aunts, and daughters, take your happy ass right on the fuck to Brazil and live there. If the only women you find attractive are biracial/mulatto European looking women, then I would invite you to pack your bags and move to Rio immediately.

This trend, for brothas to go to Brazil in search of sex with multiple mulatto, transsexual, underaged hookers, and MOVE there is yet another glaring example of how Black men are emotionally immature and piss poor partners in relationships because their priorities are fucked. It’s extraordinarily superficial and shallow to want women to use as sexual objects and to control. And you can best believe that they are doing more than having sex, there’s scat, bestiality, pedophilia and any perverse thing you can imagine going on in Brazil. Who, besides me, is going to identify the pathology of black men who are so emotionally immature as to want women to shit and piss on and fuck like dogs, or be fucked by dogs and consider that heaven as opposed to forming a relationship with a woman who is going to be supportive and work towards building a family and future together?

Black men who go to Brazil state that the women there “never question your judgment or threaten your authority.” Isn’t that their same argument about white women? Real men aren’t that insecure. What authority can you have if you need to pay women to sleep with you? How sound is your judgment if you can't see the beauty of the women who have sacrificed, loved, and supported you your entire life and you opt for women who only want your money? Men don’t expect unconditional acceptance, it's little boys need unconditional approval no matter how foul their behavior is. Us dumbass Black women are trying to be meet the impossible standards of these damaged men in order to find a partner when we need to be saying, “AWWWW hell no, you don't meet my standards.”

Copyright 2006 Scottie Lowe

6 comments:

A Man's Side of the Story said...

Black men go to Rio for a lot more than your post implies. Many I know go for humanitarian work, such as teaching, engineering and furthering our education about a part of the world that is remarkably shrouded in misinterpretations as an implied blanket assumption about why black men choose to go.

It is ironic that in choosing a long list of vitriol denunciations to describe black men who go there in terms of childish, immature etc. Have you truly tried to understand the motive of black men beyond the zero sum characteristics which either asserts that black men are only low deviant animals if they do not choose black women over another ethnic example?

Of course, it can never be considered that black women share some fault with some black men becoming attracted to another ethnicity, but like the feminist rationale, black women are beyond responsibility, reproach and are not prone to the same self examination demanded of black men.

Unfortunately in your condescending and often seemingly sadistic pleasure at running down certain black men for doing nothing more than excercising a choice (which some black will deny) The choices are rendered with one dimensional assertions to his choice in nearly criminal terms.

So let's consider a few things rarely discussed. Black men do like black women. But black men will grow to like other women too just as black women will gravitate to other ethnicities as well. The real problem has to do with opportunity and motive. I cannot tell you how many times I've seen good black men thrown over for a worthless thug by black women. I cannot find a limit to the endless demands of materialistic requirements many sistas require for even the barest considerations of attention. My pants fit me, I run a successful business, I rather enjoy speaking decent English, I've done well in school, I do not have a felony on my record, I travel, and take an interest in science, philosophy and history. As a result many black women instantly dismissed me on those grounds alone. I am not alone I've met many brothers during my travels who relate the silent unspoken truth about sisters back home. The day I entered into a relationship with an Asian woman who appreciated me, for me. Suddenly black women who wanted nothing to do with me responded with much the same as I've read from you.

Suddenly, these angry sisters made no end to offering me their most racist assumtions about Asian women they've never met, or bothered to try to get to know. Many disapproving sistas falsely related my choice of an Asian in purely sexual terms as though for black men, no possibility of a meaningful relationship can exist beyond the purely sexual rather than the sexual as one of many aspects of a relationship.

Too much Tyra and Oprah has socialized black women into seeing black men with an extremely limiting character. The truth is, for most black men in interracial relationships or one night stands between consenting adults, it was after sistas rejected them, not before. You can only treat people so badly before they eventually move on to what won't.
As for the thug types that often make salacious observations about Rio as though that's all Rio is about, consider how passionate your argument is about their immaturity. Ask youself what does that have to say about the choices sistas make in these type of men. Then ask yourself (if you can stand it) that perhaps, just perhaps the quick temper to judge is more unattractive than all the make-up, outfits and fingernails. Black wonen in some areas of society are so busy bashing black men, lumping all of us into one group that you often appear loathed to even suggest some of our achievements.
Apparently this does not seem to be as problematic with other women of varying ethnic pursuasion.

AfroerotiK said...

Sir, I would invite you to run, don't walk to the nearest white woman. I'm sure they will be much more supportive of your lunacy.

Sparrowexx said...

Mr Lone S.D.

As a black man I understand exactly what you mean when speak of the way many black women treat us. However, to truly understand the situation you must take yourself out of the situation and look at it more objectively. She is not speaking about all black men, and I know you really don't mean all lack women either. However each of you have seen an undeniably alarming number of both that behave in these manners. The issue lies more on the negligence of the, as Lone said, thug male type that so shamelessly put themselves on the forefront. This behavior breeds both the jaded men and women who suffer from it. These same men refuse to raise families that they should be raising, consisting of both men and women. The fail to help the mother teach our sons and daughters the patience and responsibility and respect that we should show to one another. As a result girls without fathers often grow into A) the materialistic women that want these unfit men or B) the women with the strong black female mentality that dogs both black men and women that don't meet their unrealistic standards fast enough. Without these men who, as a result of their own behavior, end up as the ones who are always seen publicly because they aren't with their women or taking care of their families as they should be, taking responsibility then the rest of us black men will suffer and have to unjustly pick up the broken pieces of the many women they leave in their wake. While we can find one great woman and keep her, they attract many great women and break them. It creates a cycle that is hard to break because of the sheer amount of people it affects.

Ms. AfroerotiK,

He doesn't want to run, he wants to be able to find an amazing black women that accepts him for who he is and I believe can if he so chooses. He just has to be willing to find the places that have them.

Sparrowexx said...

Also Lone, you may have failed to realize that her post isn't really referring to real black men that go to visit the beautiful country Brazil. She's referring to the black men with boy mentalities that go there mainly for sexual gratification, which means they aren't like our group that look for real and lasting relationships.

AfroerotiK said...

Mr. Sparrow,

Some Black men are unfit to form healthy relationships with Black women because they hate us. They want their children to be light, with "good hair" and light eyes, they idolize white flesh, they believe that white women are more supportive, they reject and hate anyone and everyone who remind them of the wombs from which they were birthed. Quite a few of the Black men who complain about there being no good black women have never dated black women. That is their excuse to say that white women are better. It's not their fault per se, they had grandmothers and mothers who raved about light skinned girls and how good their hair was, the only stroke magazines they ever saw only showed pictures of blond haired-blue eyes women, they went to school with drunken white boys and they wanted to fit in, they didn't want to be called nigger. Those men aren't fit to form healthy relationship for the vast majority of Black women who are simply trying to find a good man and build a good life.

YES, there are materialistic, selfish Black women but they are not the majority of Black women. They are the select few black women who look close to white, who are thin, with long weaves, with fake nails, with tons of makeup. The average sista who doesn't look like she stepped off a video set isn't like that at all. We are all alone at home on Facebook, crying about being lonely and working on ourselves so that we can be good partners when we find a man. Men, Black men, the overwhelming and vast majority of black men are NOT looking for the majority of average, good Black women. They are looking for the minority of glamorous, high-maintenance "black chick" who gives good Black women a bad name.

Apple said...

scottie, you should go to brazil for yourself. as a black woman, i loved brazil and don't let those black men who do this fool you into thinking going there is a black man thing because what they really don't want you to know is the same way black men feel welcomed with open arms...is exactly how you'll feel as a black woman if you go there...depending on where u go...maybe not in sao paulo but in the other regions, especially the black regions...girl you'll never wanna come back thats how nice it is.

go there and see for yourself i know african american women who went there and came back with a nice brazilian husband, the same way SOME black men pretend to go there to get women, only black women actually keep their relationship with the men there going...or try costa rica they like black american women there too