Negative and sterotypical depictions of Black sexuality

I own AfroerotiK, a company dedicated to dismantling the negative and stereotypical depictions of Black sexuality. Every day, every single solitary day, I have people, both Black and white ask me, "What are the negative and stereotypical depictions of Black sexuality?" It's been so ingrained in us for so long, we don't even recognize when we are being degraded.

Go into an adult video store. Asian women are "dolls" Latina women are "exotic" Black women are "ghetto whores" "ghetto bitches" ghetto freaks". There's an entire crop of "nigger" porn sites popping up. Sites like My Daughter Fucks Niggers dot com and the like have white girls throwing the N word around like it's a softball. White men sit at home and jerk off thinking the word nigger is an aphrodisiac. The not so transparent premise of sites lite those are based on the concept of Black men being sexual savages and it being "taboo" to fuck them. I've asked 6 million white people, what's so "taboo" about a white woman fucking a Black man and they always say, "You know, it just is . . . it's noting racist or anything." Then I always ask them, is it "taboo" for a white woman to fuck an Asian man? No. Is it "taboo" for a white woman to fuck a Latino man? Same answer, no. Is it taboo for a white woman to fuck a Native American man? No. Is it taboo for a woman to fuck a dog? Then, the answer is a resounding YES. So fucking a black man and fucking a dog fall in the same taboo category. Black men not only don't have a problem with being seen as a sexual savage and animals, but they embrace it like it’s an honor. They think it's hot to fuck white women on camera and call themselves niggers, to show white men what beasts they are for fucking those white wives senseless. They think it proves that they are more of a man to be able to fuck white women in front of their husbands. They revel in the role of nigger buck. It's so accepted, so ingrained in our psyche, we don't even think twice at the way we are depicted.

When white men tell me that they want to see what it's like to have sex with a Black woman, I used go off on them, telling them that I'm a human being, not a scratch and sniff experiment. I used to give this long lecture on how my sexuality is not a manifestation of my skin color. Today, I just put them on ignore. I’d spend my entire life, every waking minute of the day telling white men that I am not some taboo fantasy for them to explore and they still wouldn’t get it because I’m the only woman who doesn’t think its flattering for white men to say, “Black women are so sexy, their asses are so big.” My attractiveness as a woman lies between my ears, not between my legs, not in my ass, not in the color of my skin. Black women are so desperate to be seen as attractive, to be thought of as sexy, they find it flattering when white men objectify us.

Now we have a wave of sistas who are engaging white men in their domination of the nigger bitch fantasies, being whipped and beaten while being called a slave and absolutely the most vile and degrading names. They subconsciously hate their blackness so much, they are so tormented with being black in this racist society, and they want to be owned by white men and degraded for their sexuality. It's a pathology so deep, so profound it boggles my mind. I've seen the same behavior in some gay and submissive Black men; they want to be the nigger coon whipping post for any Nazi, skinhead, slave master, racist white person that will use them. Consciously, they insist that it has nothing to do with race; it's just a personal preference. Having fantasies about being called a nigger coon whore has nothing to do with race? That’s deep.

Let me tell you, I listen to the fantasies of white people every day. There are far more extreme, far more perverse, far more disgusting than anything I've ever heard from a Black person. We as black people can't even feel comfortable expressing our sexuality in a safe, healthy manner. We are so repressed, so ashamed of anything that isn't missionary, doggie style or oral that we torment ourselves with guilt over innocent fantasies. Meanwhile white people are engaging in acts that are truly perverse and saying that we are the sexual savages.

The myth of the sexual Black beast, the ghetto freak, the barely literate Black buck are all still very prevalent and no one is even disturbed by them, let alone trying to dismantle them.