There seems to be this thought
process, this commonly-held belief that being a woman, that having a pussy is
some sort of form of employment, that a vagina is a commodity men must purchase
in order to be able to enjoy it, that sex is a business. I’m here to say that while that’s what a
pussy might have become in this patriarchal, misogynist, sexist, oppressive
society, I’m here to boldly declare that having a pussy is not a job.
I’ve heard and witnessed several
conversations, exchanges, diatribes, monologues, and debates as of late where
this notion that women who are not “selling it” are disadvantaged. Supposedly, the poor, unfortunate women who not
selling pussy are bitter and angry because they are not getting paid for what
other women are profiting from. There
seems to be this deluded notion that a woman’s role in life is to please a man
and that he must pay for that right. When
you have a society based on the concept that God is a man and he created woman
for man, you will forever had a warped perception of what a woman is supposed
to be. People will even tell you that
selling pussy is the oldest profession, that women were selling pussy long
before any other sorts of business transactions were being made. That is absurd. Sex was for procreation. Sex was for recreation. Sex was for meditative, transcendent pleasure. Sex was not for purchase until men decided
that they needed to find a way to control women, to harness women’s power, to
deny them pleasure. Let me tell you
something here and now, as long as men and women believe this lie, as long as
women are seeing their pussies as something of value that men can purchase, intimate,
healthy relationships are going to suffer the consequences of such warped
beliefs.
A woman’s body was not ever
intended to be something to be purchased.
I’m here to boldly declare that having a pussy is a privilege, an
awesome responsibility, at times a burden, but it is not now, nor was it ever
intended to be way to make money. Women
give birth; we are the victims of rape, molestation, and abuse. We are used for
no other reason than we can provide men carnal pleasure. Capitalism, money,
business are all man-made concepts, and rather warped concepts spiritually. When you pay for something you own it and no
man should ever be able to say that he owns a woman’s most sacred space. Women who sell pussy are not empowered, they
are pawns in the game that men control.
Ultimately, it’s men who determine their worth. Women have to meet the impossibly high
standards of men’s tiny definition of beauty and femininity to be considered valuable. Women who sell pussy are dependent upon men
for their sense of self worth. When the
men stop paying for it, where does she turn to find her value? Caring for a man and pleasing him is not a
woman’s responsibility in life, it’s her choice to do so when she finds a
partner who values and pleases her.
I’m here to say that as a woman
who has NEVER sold her pussy, not once, not for a car note, not for a rent
payment, not for any dollar amount, I don’t feel bitter or angry at the women
who are selling it. I have never had sex
unless it was for love or lust and I’m perfectly fine with that. I know that my mind and my heart are my
greatest assets, that I don’t need a man to validate my worth. I know that I’m not an object to be purchased
and replaced by some man who is going to buy me like he buys the next woman who
gets his dick hard. I know that I was
not created to serve a man, to cater to his whims, I know that my job as wife/lover
is not to “make it hot for my husband.”
My job as a partner and lover and spouse is to support my husband as he
supports me. It’s not a one-sided transaction
where he fills his lust because he’s been out all day making money and I’m
supposed to be at home fixing dinner and cleaning the house to keep him happy. Sex, either in marriage or without, should
never be about money. It cheapens the
value of women when they sell it and it warps the minds of men who pay for it because
they think that women are items to be bought and sold. Sex should be about intimacy, passion, lust,
pleasure, communication, prayer. Sex
should be about sharing time and energy with the person you love. When sex becomes a bargaining chip, a service
rendered for a payment, a chore or duty for which compensation is required,
then sex itself becomes vulgar. And as
hard as it is for some men to believe, every woman does not sell her pussy,
whether it’s for dinner or in marriage.
Many do. Maybe most have been
conditioned to think of their pussies as for sale.
Women, empower yourself. Redefine yourself. You are not worth whatever a man will pay for
you, you are priceless. Your value is
not in the number of designer shoes you own or the car you drive or being able
to pay your bills because you can give great head. You were not put on earth to be the mistress,
maid, or cook for men. Your role as a
woman is not to stand behind a man but to stand beside him, to build with him,
not do his bidding. Ask yourself how
much a man is willing to pay for your goods and services and then multiply that
times a number so large you can’t comprehend it to know your true worth. Men, you will forever be emotionally stunted
and immature as long as you think pussy has a price tag. See a woman’s value in her integrity, her
character, her intellect, not in the fat, wetness between her legs. You are perpetrators of the most heinous
behavior when you pay for that which is supposed to be sacred and
worshipped.
Copyright 2012 Scottie Lowe
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