Erotic provocateur, racially-influenced humanist, relentless champion for the oppressed, and facilitator for social change, Scottie Lowe is the brain child, creative genius and the blood, sweat, and tears behind AfroerotiK. Intended to be part academic, part educational, and part sensual, she, yes SHE gave birth to the website to provide people of African descent a place to escape the narrow-mined, stereotypical, limiting and oft-times degrading beliefs that abound about our sexuality. No, not all Black men are driven by lust by white flesh or to create babies and walk away. No, not all Black women are promiscuous welfare queens. And as hard as it may be to believe, no, not all gay Black men are feminine, down low, or HIV positive. Scottie is putting everything on the table to discuss, debate, and dismantle stereotypes in a healthy exchange of ideas. She hopes to provide a more holistic, informed, and enlightened discussion of Black sexuality and dreams of helping couples be more open, honest, and adventurous in their relationships.

Showing posts with label making love. Show all posts
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Saturday, February 28, 2015

Sensu-Soul Video

Action: Two beautiful people are snuggled on the sofa, sharing in each other’s time, space, dreams, and love.  They vibe off each other, they complement each other, they desire each other.  What makes this scene different is that the man and woman are graced with the kisses of warm, rich hues of ebony upon their skin.  It was their ancestors who survived dehumanizing slavery so that their descendents could live and thrive and love.  And love they do, but it’s not a rushed, clich├ęd formulaic love, it’s tender, purposed, sensual, and it’s soulful.  It’s Sensu-Soul. 

Captured in beautiful high-def clarity and stunning visual imagery, rarely seen in adult offerings, Sensu-Soul is the groundbreaking, TRULY erotic feature that explores Black love, in a way that is sure to set your libido on fire.  Play the role of voyeur as you watch some of the most passionate, titillating, intimate, and romantic expression of intimacy and seduction ever witnessed.  This is the love of true Gods and Goddesses, of Kings and Queens, of brothas and sistas.  Sensu-Soul is hot, sweaty, fevered passion that can only come as the result of the most purposed, skillful seduction. 

Every Black woman will be unable to take her eyes off this video, entranced by the attention, affection, and outrageous tenderness lavished upon someone who looks just like them, with full lips and round hips and brown skin.  Every Black man will use this video to learn the techniques of seduction, romance, and how to please a woman.  People of all races will be aroused and stimulated by the pure, raw, uninhibited sensuality of two exquisite specimens of brown beauty displaying passion like artisans of sensuality.  Unlike most Black adult videos, in Sensu-Soul there is no use of the word bitch, ho, freak, ghetto, pimps, playaz, and especially not the N word.  There is no slapping, choking, gagging, no degrading facials, no booty shots, and no cheap motel room. Sensu-Soul is pure, sophisticated, Ebony erotica. 

Saturday, April 30, 2011

Is it a Question of LOVE?

    I was asked to answer the following questions on love because, supposedly, I’m a thinker.  Here are the questions and my responses.

    1.    What is love (to you)?
    Love is a feeling, an emotion, a state of being where you care for someone else’s well-being, you care about their feelings, you want to make them happy, see them happy, you don’t mind sacrificing for them.

    2. What is IN love (to you)?  I don’t differentiate the terms love and in love simply because I don’t think there’s any quantifiable way to define how much one loves another person.  We use the words love for family and friends and people we don’t want to have sex with and we use the words in love for someone to whom we are romantically attracted.  I don’t love the little boy I baby-sit for any more or less than I once loved his father.  Most people would get upset if I were to say that I was in love with a child but my level of emotion, concern, and the depth of my feelings is on par with the love I’ve felt for grown men.  I want to see him smile, I look forward to seeing him, I miss him when he’s not here, I think of things to do for him that will make him happy.  Those are the exact same things I once felt for his father.  Because I have no sexual feelings for him, society says I’m not “in love” with him.  I say society needs to separate romantic love from “other” love because we are so sexually repressed, because we don’t teach people how to love, only what it is to be loved.  I LOVE my sister and I don’t think I’ve seen her more than a half a dozen times in my life.  I still remember the first time I laid eyes on her, she was a grown woman .  The feeling of wanting her to be happy and healthy, of wanting to protect her . . . it still brings tears to my eyes.  I’m in love with her.  My love for her is active and growing and alive.

    3. Have you or anyone you know, mistaken LOVE for IN LOVE?  If the assumption is that being “in love” is somehow real and true and that to only “love” someone means that the love is superficial or doesn’t have as much substance or validity as being “in love” then I reject the terms.  I have fallen in love with men who I’ve later been repulsed by.  I’ve loved men who have not deserved my love.  I’ve loved men who have fooled me into thinking they were someone that they were not.  I love men whom I once cared for deeply but have no romantic feelings for currently.  Love can grow and evolve, the depth of one’s feelings can change and transform.  Love is real.  The baggage we apply to it is what makes it appear false.

    4. Is conditional love natural or can it be inherited? I think conditional love is a manifestation of selfishness.  Conditional love is only loving someone if they love you a certain way, if they only fulfill your needs in a way that is pleasing to you.  That is a creation of a society that teaches people to love themselves, to only look out for number one.  I think we teach our children conditional love by beating them, by withholding love from them when they misbehave, by not showing them healthy examples of love.  I think conditional love is a sickness we’ve inherited from a society that is spiritually bereft.

    5. Why is love so complicated when it suppose to be the most simplest of all acts and feelings?  We live in a society of fear.  We fear that if we love someone and we don’t get that love returned, that we have to hurt them back.  We live in a society that teaches us how to be loved, to enjoy the feelings of someone treating us special but we don’t learn how to make someone else feel special.  Love is complicated because we are taught models of love from our mothers and fathers, who most often were not together, who fought, who didn’t love each other, and who brought a whole host of other emotional issues to the table when they did.  Love is difficult because it leaves us vulnerable and that is scary. Love is difficult because it takes work.  Love is difficult because we fall in love with money and looks and superficial things that have nothing to do with true emotion and feeling.  It’s hard to find love because first we need to love ourselves, and  to do that, we have to take the bandage off our emotional wounds and really heal them and that hurts.

    6. Is 'material' love a bad thing? If yes, then how can we 'de-love' it?   If by material love, you mean love of things, I think that is purely a manifestation of Eurocentrism.  Almost all indigenous, brown people loved the land, they loved their people, and they loved the Creator more than they loved things before the influence of Europeans.  The importance of things, outside trinkets, stuff, money, belongings that give people a false sense of worth seems to stem from the people who think that they can take land, kidnap and kill people, steal possessions as their god-given right.  The only way I can imagine to de-love material things is to see ourselves as truly spiritual beings, the way God intended us to be.  If God is love, then all we are is love.  If love is truth, then material things are the lie.

    7. Is there really such a thing as self-love? (take your time on this one)  I have to wonder why this question was posed as such.  It seems to indicate that self-love is perhaps fictional or delusional.  Self-love is not needing validation from someone or something else, it is holding yourself to a higher standard than others around you would.  Self-love is making sure you don’t put yourself in harmful, dysfunctional situations.  Self-love is very real.  It is knowing yourself, your triggers, your weaknesses, it’s knowing everything about yourself, the good and the bad, and being comfortable in your own skin.