Other
Because of my role as a writer of
erotica, a great portion of it being interracial content, I’ve spoken for more
than a decade about the astronomical numbers of whites who crave sexual
submission to Blacks. The numbers are astounding
considering it is such a “secret” in the mainstream media. Millions upon millions of whites are
desperate for sexual domination from Blacks.
I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again, it’s so pervasive, so
widespread, so prevalent and yet it continues to be America’s dirty little
secret in plain sight for anyone who wants to see. It’s not just one sort of white person, it’s every
sort of white person. Male and female,
rich and poor, white collar, blue collar, young, old, and all driven by their
core beliefs that Blacks are somehow sexual savages and that sex with us is
especially degrading and nasty. Some
suggest that they have come to the understanding that Blacks are truly superior
but their motivations are driven by their sexuality, they have done NO work to
rid themselves of their racist beliefs. These
are the same people who voted for Trump; these are the same people who spend inordinate
amounts of time trying to convince Blacks that they know more about racism than
we do, these are the same people who post videos online of their trysts in
seedy motels with their faces obscured for everyone to see and who revel in
being Jacks and Queens of Spades, as if that is some sort of compliment. (insert
vomiting face emoji)
And now it seems there is a new
trend. In the last few years, a growing
number of Blacks are sexually aroused by being called nigger and being sexually
degraded by whites. They are turned on by
being degraded, humiliated, ridiculed, and objectified while being called racist
names by actual racist white people.
I’m on a quest to find out the
reasons why, the psychological origins of this growing trend among Blacks who
find sexual arousal in being called nigger/coon/jungle bunny etc., and being
sexually degraded by whites; Blacks who are sexually turned on by replicating
master/slave scenarios. I’ve witnessed the
trend grow over the last couple of years and I’m just the sort of person who
wants to understand the origins of growing trends. My very first exposure to it was Ghetto
Gaggers, where I ASSUMED the women were doing it just to get paid and they didn’t
realize how detrimental it was as social commentary, I assumed they didn’t
grasp that they were essentially telling white men that it was okay to abuse us
because they were disenfranchised and merely looking for a way to get some money. Perhaps I was wrong about their
motivations. Maybe they sought out this
treatment because it resonated with them.
Then I started to notice that Black men were seeking out white women to
degrade them for not having a foot of dick and not being the thug/Mandingo
archetype that society tells Black men is all they are capable of being. Then, about two years ago, I started to see
multiple pages on Tumblr and other adult social media with sistas writing racial
epithets on themselves and being used by white men. Now, I see groups, websites, and every form
of media touting this sort of behavior as empowering.
Let me state first and foremost
that I find the trend alarming, unhealthy, and dysfunctional. Apparently, a great many people take serious
offense to me suggesting that any sort of behavior, especially any sort of
sexual behavior is unhealthy. It seems
that anything sexual, as long as it is agreed to by the participants, is to be
considered empowering and perfectly fine, even if that means degrading and
objectifying yourself. (I wish I could
find the white bitch who started this absurd concept and punch her in the
throat; she has done more damage to Black Millennials with that dumb ass
bullshit concept than any sheet wearing Klansman). I get it.
No one wants to think that their behaviors are dysfunctional so we’ve
created a social environment where EVERYTHING is healthy. Unfortunately, as a student of psychology, I
can assure you that isn’t true.
OK, rewind to a few days ago when
I posed a question to find out WHY Black people are embracing this trend with
such, what I consider to be, alarming numbers.
I prefaced my question to Black submissives by saying that I was
interested in finding out what motivated them without judgement but I guess
that’s not true. I don’t think the trend
is healthy so my judgment is inherent and inexorable. I do not think they are bad people, but I do
not think that their behaviors are unhealthy.
People don’t hear that. They only
hear, “You’re a bad person,” rather than the real issue is that we ALL have unhealthy
behaviors, let’s work to find out where they come from and heal them so that we
can evolve and grow. No, this society
wants us to remain stagnant and unhealthy and we have support systems to tell
people that anything they like it hunky dorey, even if it erodes their sense of
self.
This trend of Blacks being
sexually submissive to whites is across the board among social status: poor
middle class, and rich. For the more
affluent, there are actual slave plantations where Blacks go to in order to be
sold on auction blocks and get treated like they were real slaves with all of
the racial/sexual humiliation and degradation associated therewith. For those Black folk who can’t afford such
luxuries, they are left to take to the internet or Tinder or however one meets
partners these days to find willing whites who will slap, choke, spit on, beat,
degrade, humiliate and call them racial epithets while having sex.
I had a fascinating conversation
with a woman yesterday about this topic that is haunting me today. The young lady who responded to my question
was NOT a Millennial but rather an X’er, very close in age to myself. She said that she had a “friend” who was in a
relationship with a white man and that she engaged in race play with him occasionally. It seems her friend found a sweet surrender
in being degraded by her white lover and she found it to be empowering and a “release.” When I probed further, asking about what sort
of release and comfort she experienced, I was lead to understand that her
friend found solace in being able to be “other.” She didn’t want to be a strong Black woman
all the time. She didn’t want to be who
she was during the day. I can’t imagine
who she thinks she is pretending to be during the day that seems so burdensome
that she wants to be the nigger-fuck-toy of a white man but apparently it is
quite an awesome burden for her to bear.
The young lady with whom I communicated was quite confident in asserting
that her friend was perfectly normal because she and her white lover were in a
relationship and didn’t engage in this sort of activity all the time and that
the only people who were really dysfunctional were the Blacks who sought out
racial degradation in non-sexual contexts.
Her friend, she assured me, was only doing it to momentarily become, “other.” My question then became, “What’s the other
that she is referring to?” That is the quintessential
question. Let’s examine it further.
I do not hide the fact that I
have and may possibly continue to dominate white men exclusively. I’m not at all sure what my role as a Domme
will be going forward as I’ve found that I’m emotionally and mentally drained
by the insanity of white men and I do not want to be infected with their lunacy. I most
certainly want to decrease my exposure to them, especially in the context where
they see me as an object of their sexual desire. I
dominate white men because they have a tremendous amount of unearned privilege
in this society, they are beneficiaries of the fallacy of white supremacy in a
racist society that is built upon their adulation for being Caucasian. For centuries, white people have lied,
cheated, stolen, manipulated, used, abused, and murdered all with the belief
that they are the superior race so that all they do is justified by God. They even created God in their image: a white
male in the sky, a white male on the cross, a white male who saves the
day.
As I told the young lady, whites
are born into a world where they are told that God is white, Jesus is white,
Superman is white, Santa is white, everyone who is supposedly good is white. That belief, from the day they are born,
creates a very FALSE sense of superiority, regardless if they swear up and down
that they weren’t raised racist. To be
white and to be born in the last half millennia is to be born inherently racist. Not genetically racist but socialized to
believe that everything good comes from someone that looks like them. The truth is, however, that whites are not
superior. In fact, one can argue that
they are inherently inferior because of their innate and pathological need to
control, destroy, manipulate and own every god damn thing under the sun and to
hell with morality, humanity, ecology or anything else that gets in their
way.
But, I digress. My function as a Psychological Domme is to
divest white men of their fallacious sense of superiority. As a psychological Domme, I do not engage
with white men sexually, even though I use their sexual arousal as a tool to
rewire them. Even those who come to me
thinking erroneously that their sexual submission indicates that they realize
that they are inferior to Blacks, I school them. I re-educate them. I show them the truth and I rip from them
their arrogant beliefs. I present them
with an ugly and realistic picture of themselves. I make sure that after they have left me,
they know that they are not superior and that they can’t live their vanilla
lives with the arrogance of thinking that they are better than Blacks when they
are with their friends and then sucking a Black dick through a glory hole or
drinking some Black piss and that is supposed to mean that they are not racist. I make them face a cold, harsh, reality that
they are inherently deviant, immature, perverted, deceptive, and infinitely
inferior. I make them address their true
“other.”
So now, it begs the question of
what these Blacks are feeling when they are being called nigger by whites. There is no fallacious sense of superiority
in Blacks, we’ve been born, bred, and raised in a society that has told us from
the first second we take a breath that we are inferior. Our ancestors bled and died at the base of horrendous,
horrific, sadistic treatment from whites who fallaciously believed that they
were superior to our gorgeous brown bodies, our resilient spirits, to our indefatigable
will to survive. So, what “other” is it
that Blacks feel that they are getting such empowerment from in subscribing to
the very fallacious belief that we are inherently niggers? What
is this “other” that they feel is healed or released or soothed by being
degraded by whites? Blacks are degraded
in the media. We are degraded by
society. Black people are minimized,
reduced, stereotyped, objectified and diminished day in and day out, every god
damn day, without reprieve. What’s the
fucking “other” they are seeking to embrace?
The young lady with whom I spoke
suggested that her friend was normal because she didn’t engage in race play all
the time. Silly me, here I go thinking
that if your white lover calls you a “dumb nigger fucking coon bitch” while his
dick is hard on Saturday night, there is no way to pretend that you are in a
healthy relationship when you are raking up the leaves in the backyard together
on Sunday afternoon. Those are not just
some words he’s using in a sexual context and then all of a sudden he doesn’t
believe them after he nuts. Spoiler
alert! If your white lover calls you a
nigger bitch, cunt, whore, spook, and/or porch monkey, he doesn’t love or respect
you. He doesn’t respect your race, your
ancestors, your history, or your culture.
He believes you are inferior. He
is racist at his core and his drives, motivations, and beliefs are antithetical
to the TRUE growth, survival, and empowerment of the African American
community. There is nothing healthy
about that. But God bless our little
hearts. If we can say, “It’s not that
deep,” or we can dismiss the entire conversation by saying, “most people don’t put
that much thought into it,” that’s the exact panacea we need to keep our heads
in the sand and go on about our lives without being introspective about the
source of our issues.
I completely get how the Blacks
who have grown up in all white communities, maybe even by white, racist
grandparents, foster parents, or adopted parents, who were surrounded by all
white racist teachers and classmates, who didn’t have any positive images of
Blackness, end up being submissive to whites.
They have been isolated their entire lives, they are constantly
bombarded with images of whiteness as being supreme. I get it!
I absolutely don’t get how Blacks who have been exposed to Blackness all
their lives, who’ve grown up in Black households and neighborhoods, who might
not have been exposed to positive images of Blacks but at the very least they
have Black grandma’s who love them, they have sat around and heard
conversations of Black elders talking about some form of racism and injustice
and inequality, end up wanting to be slaves to whites. I truly grasp that parents don’t teach their
children about Black history any more but there is a survival mechanism we
learn just from being Black that sets us apart and we know that racism is real
from a very young age. We learn it
through osmosis. How then do these Black
people find sexual arousal in being made into niggers for white’s sexual
arousal? Help me understand!
I suspect that some Blacks are
the victims of childhood sexual molestation from whites who called them names
and degraded them when they were pre-pubescent.
Pedophilia is RAMPANT among whites, again leading back to this sense of
entitlement and superiority, they can do anything, they can do nothing wrong, that
they are deserving of a greater and greater sexual thrill and anything and
everything becomes their object of lust. It makes sense that if a Black child’s
very first sexual exposure was initiated by a racist white person who sought to
take advantage of them that their brains would be hard-wired to seek out whites
to degrade them as adults. I’m having a
hard time grasping . . . I do not understand how Blacks who see racism in
society, who speak up against it, who are discouraged by it, who are consumed
with the rage in fighting to make our lives significant to the majority, then
turn off the lights and find comfort being degraded by the very people whom
they know benefit from the racist systems that dictate that Black Lives Don’t
Mean Mother Fucking Shit. Is that the
source of the majority of these individuals who have this fetish? What other factors are contributing to it?
It’s not a question I’m going to
let go of any time soon. I want to know
the how’s and the why’s (I know that isn’t the correct punctuation but hows and
whys just looks too wrong). I want to work
to heal this mindset. I want EVERY
person of African descent to understand, embrace, and be proud of our identity
as the strongest people on the planet.
No one else could have survived the conditions we have survived. No one else carries within them a legacy so
great. I want us to respect and love
ourselves, so much so that we violently reject being degraded and called
niggers by whites for love or acceptance or sexual arousal.
For the record, healthy sexuality
would be where you do not feel the need to be degraded, objectified,
humiliated, demeaned, used, or abused. Oh
shit, I’ve just called out 50% of the BDSM community as unhealthy and I’m perfectly
fine with that. Just because it’s popular,
just because it’s the norm does not mean it’s psychologically or emotionally
healthy. We are de-evolving as a
society. We have so many
pseudo-intellectuals talking about self-care and safe spaces, the first safe
space we should have is in our own skin where we love, value, accept, and
respect ourselves, so much so that we know that our sexuality doesn’t have to
be tied to being degraded or humiliated.
Only in a truly fractured, unhealthy society is that a radical,
offensive concept. It almost goes
without saying that if one feels the need to degrade, objectify, demean, use,
abuse, and otherwise humiliate one’s partner, that is a sign of low
self-esteem. So there, that makes up the
other 50% of the BDSM community and identifies them as equally as
unhealthy. (I’m being facetious in my
percentages. I don’t know how many
submissives there are compared to dominants but the point is that the origins
of all of the behaviors are unhealthy, my own included. I am not exempt.)
For the record, a healthy sense
of self is one in which you are comfortable with your sexuality and you don’t
feel like you have to be “dirty” or bad or a slut behind closed doors but one
in which you are integrated and content with your sexual desires as an
adult. Healthy sexuality is one in which
Black men don’t feel like they aren’t valuable if they don’t have a stallion
dick but they understand that Blackness and manhood are about being given less
and doing more. If you feel like you can’t
tell your friends about your desires, you can’t let your co-workers know what
you’re really into, if you spend your life lying, hiding, diminishing, and publicly
denying the things that arouse you in private, you are unhealthy.
There is a healthy standard of
sexuality. It’s not being shown, taught,
or comprehended but I can assure you that women are NOT meant to be used by
men. There is NOTHING inherent to women, not genetically or biologically, that
dictates that we are predisposed to being slapped, choked, gagged, called
names, or otherwise degraded. We have a
right to be seduced, romanced, pleasured, valued, cherished and adored and not
in the context of using men or dominating them but as sex as a form of
communication. Sex should be about
mutual pleasure and ecstasy. When I say
that, people hear, “Sex has to be boring and vanilla,” because they have NO
concept, they are completely ignorant of how sex can be great, vigorous,
passionate, hot, and sweaty without it having to be about domination and/or
degradation. That’s sad. But that’s not what porn shows us, is it? Porn shows us white/sexist/oppressive men’s
perception of sex that women are things, holes to be used for their pleasure and
women accept and co-sign for it and they are offended, outraged, and disgusted with
me for suggesting that that is unhealthy or abnormal.
If you have a fetish or fantasy
that is extreme, or outside the norm, like I do, even if millions upon millions
of people share the same fantasy, it does not mean you are healthy. As hard as I work to divest white men of
their fallacious sense of superiority, I work ten times as hard divesting
myself of the beliefs that have been inflicted upon me and that make my
fantasies come from a place of dysfunction.
The trend for Blacks seeking to be degraded by whites is not going to go
anywhere, it’s going to grow and metastasize like a cancer. I accept that. But you can rest assured that I’m going to do
my level best to heal the source of it.
It’s more important to me than divesting white men of their fallacious
sense of superiority. I will divest
people of African descent of their fallacious sense of inferiority.
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