AfroerotiK

Erotic provocateur, racially-influenced humanist, relentless champion for the oppressed, and facilitator for social change, Scottie Lowe is the brain child, creative genius and the blood, sweat, and tears behind AfroerotiK. Intended to be part academic, part educational, and part sensual, she, yes SHE gave birth to the website to provide people of African descent a place to escape the narrow-mined, stereotypical, limiting and oft-times degrading beliefs that abound about our sexuality. No, not all Black men are driven by lust by white flesh or to create babies and walk away. No, not all Black women are promiscuous welfare queens. And as hard as it may be to believe, no, not all gay Black men are feminine, down low, or HIV positive. Scottie is putting everything on the table to discuss, debate, and dismantle stereotypes in a healthy exchange of ideas. She hopes to provide a more holistic, informed, and enlightened discussion of Black sexuality and dreams of helping couples be more open, honest, and adventurous in their relationships.

Thursday, December 02, 2010

Race Matters



I was reading a discussion thread on a sexually-oriented website the other day and there was a question posed by a white dominant asking why there weren’t more submissive black men.  There are about a dozen responses – ALL from white men, waxing philosophically and trying to justify their racism  and stereotypes with clichés.   Not one black person, dominant or submissive, responded.  I was dismayed by the situation, but upon reflection, I had to acknowledge that I probably would have been even more disgusted had a Black person responded because, overall, we as a people are ill–equipped to discuss race in any way that moves the discussion beyond, “Color doesn’t matter.” 
 
Then I reflected on my now defunct website, my shut down yahoo group, and this very blog.  For the most part, the comments added by my own folk sort of resonate around, “Yeah, I agree,” or, “That was nice.”  With few exceptions (and there are some notable exceptions) Black people don’t respond to the topics and forums that confront white people and their racism.  Let me write a piece about getting fucked in the ass, and Black people come out of the woodwork to comment.  Let the topic be about dismantling white people of the fallacy of their unearned, inherited supremacy . . . and you will be deafened by the sound of virtual crickets. 
Sadly, all too often, when Black people do get the gumption to add their feedback, the comments are, I’m sorry to say, barely literate and disjointed.  More often than not, their comments reflect a brainwashed mentality that tries to appease the egos of white folk.  White people, white men really, don’t have a problem espousing whatever contrived logic they’ve come up with to justify their perceptions and they will go on and on . . . and on to make sure they have the last word.   White people control the conversations about race and black people stay mute.  

I’m here to tell the world, as long as we keep letting white people dictate conversations about race, we will forever remained mentally enslaved.  As long as we can’t communicate beyond that of a third grader, as long as we are ill-prepared to dismantle their bullshit, we might as well be back on the plantation picking cotton.  I know I personally provide more than enough thought-provoking material that can be the foundation for lots of discussion.  We need to be able to muster up more than a feeble, “I feel the same way,” in order to really do the work of deconstructing white people of their false sense of superiority. 

9 comments:

Anonymous said...

I actually think that Black people are starting to slowly realize that the only threat to White society (as far as race is concerned) is an educated Black person. Its just about the only way we can get ahead. I see the opposite from what you wrote all of the time. I see black women and a few men openly discuss their views on sexuality, politics, finances, and how they all relate to different races, not just white and black. Perhaps this is because I am a college student. But nevertheless, there is still hope.
And to be honest, I think that most blacks are too blunt to want to please someone else because of their race...unless they feel they have to act that way for personal gain. Maybe they just do not have the same uhhhhhhh enthusiasm(???) to discuss matters that actually give a shit?

Anonymous said...

dear Afroerotik

i am not sure i agree that the supremacy of white people is unearned. it may have been earned by previous generations and it may have been earned unethically.

on the question of why there are few submissive black men: i have long thought that white men being dominant economically and white men being submissive to black Women is not hard to understand. white men are willing "submissive slaves" to the economic system and can get rewarded ecomically. their power is a reflection of their willingness to submit somewhat.

white men will lose their supremacy if asian men prove more willing to cooperate with the economic system. this process is maybe more significant than a change in power between white and black in the USA.

graeme

AfroerotiK said...

The delusions of white men continue.

rich said...

Scotty,

It is true that blacks need to wake up and take charge of the discussion, yet so few seem to be willing to do so. I can't believe that it is from any fear etc., but most likely that they are in a comfort zone and are unwilling to break out of it. That is one of the things that kept you all slavery in the first place. No whites can hope to understand unless blacks tell us.

AfroerotiK said...

Why are you so unwilling to think it's from fear?

rich said...

That is why blacks need to stand up and tell us what "it" is. I can never pretend to understand the black experience in America as I have always been a pampered and privileged whiteboi. Perhaps, in my own mind, I can't think of any reason why a black should be afraid of me, since I have always been afraid of them. That, of course is narrow white thinking.

Anonymous said...

I think that white men can get away with more. They can be submissive in the bedroom, and then wake up the next morning and rule the world. Whereas some black men just just have a hard time in general...compared to their white counterparts. I dont think that they would want to play a submissive role at home. Submissive-ness is associated with weakness. It might not be fear...just uncomfortable and strange.

Anonymous said...

Lol Scottie... It's hard not to laugh at your hilariously dim witted observations on race and sex.

I can so clearly picture you sitting in Sociology 101, just another face in the mass of impressionable stupid that is the crowd in a college lecture hall. Only every time words like "superiority" or "lynching" are spoken aloud, your quivering hand snakes farther up your dripping thighs.

You're a cartoon.

Please don't change.

Lol.

AfroerotiK said...

White men are so amusing.