I struggle with finding suitable
partners, ones to whom I attracted, who meet my criteria, and who appreciate
what I bring to the table. I’m most
assuredly, unquestionably sapiosexual; I’ve yet to meet the man who is too
intellectual for me, so finding someone who stimulates me mentally (notice I
didn’t say challenges me mentally, I ABHOR verbal sparring with my partner) is
essential. That eliminates quite a few
men from my potential dating pool. I’ve
dated men who were smart, I’ve dated men who were intelligent, I’ve even dated
those who were not particularly bright, but nothing compares to dating an
academic and an intellectual in my book.
I don’t need to date Einstein (although, Neil Degrasse Tyson, if you’re
reading this, get at me) but I mos def need a man who thinks outside the box,
who sees things beyond black and white, who has challenged the status quo. I’m tall, I’m outspoken, I wear my hair short
and natural, and I’m AfroerotiK, and that intimidates a lot of men. Bam, my dating pool just got infinitely
smaller. I’m convinced, beyond the
shadow of a doubt in fact, that there is a man out there who will find me
attractive, whom I find attractive, who meets my criteria (I will not settle
for anything less than a Black man who is HONEST,
a man of integrity, socially and politically liberal, and emotionally mature)
AND who appreciates all that I have to offer.
I am the real deal. If I have to say so myself, I’m quite the
package, or as applies in this metaphor, I bring a lot to the table. First and foremost, my table is set with fine
china, linens, crystal and sterling silver cutlery. I’m far from ghetto. I’m not average, mediocre, or typical. I’m sophisticated, worldly, traveled,
well-read, educated and I come from a family of professional, intellectuals,
and activists. I carry myself like a
queen because I am descended from royalty.
I don’t do drugs, I’ve never engaged in any illegal activity, I don’t
associate with riff raff, degenerates, or those prone to drama. The table itself is reflective of five-star
dining. This ain’t no take out joint or chain restaurant.
What’s on the menu? Well let’s start out with the appetizer. How about a woman who is mentally stable, a
great communicator, pathologically honest, of above average intellect,
creative, talented, and independent? I’m
not at all superficial or materialistic; I’m extremely grounded and down to
earth. I’m loyal, a great friend, and
trustworthy. I’m a great cook and very
domestic but a phenomenal entrepreneur
to boot. I’m socially conscious and empathetic and very much an advocate for
the oppressed.
Is that enough to whet your
appetite? Well for the main course we
have a woman who has a HUGE heart and who is unbelievably loving. Caring, affectionate, romantic, and
thoughtful are all words that accurately describe how I behave in a
relationship. Do you like gifts and
surprises for no reason? Perhaps you
like a woman who is spontaneous and adventurous? That’s me.
I will be supportive, I will help you fulfill your dreams, I will take
excellent care of you when you’re sick, and be your biggest cheerleader. I won’t give up on the relationship; I’ll
work hard at it to make it happy and satisfying for both of us. Compromise is my middle name and I’m never so
arrogant as not to admit when I’m wrong.
And for dessert . . . ahhhhh . .
. dessert is the sweetest, most mouth-watering treat imaginable. My sex is like whoa. I do not give my body away indiscriminately;
I’m very selective with my partners so if you get to taste this rare delicacy,
consider yourself lucky. Once you get
it, once you get my juicy, hot, sticky, sweet, wet love it is all yours, and no
one else’s. I am a fanatic about keeping
the fires burning in a relationship and seduction is an art form I’ve
mastered. My passion burns hot and I
love to express it all the time. Intimacy
is my drug of choice and I’m addicted to it.
Prepare yourself for a night of extended foreplay, beautiful
love-making, and finished off with sweaty, loud, primal fucking over and over
and over again.
What’s the cost of this sumptuous
meal? Your commitment to me and the
relationship, your complete honesty, and your love. Not a very high price to pay for such an
exquisite meal.
