It is time to explore this subject again. Attention needs to be drawn to this as it is rampant and pervasive and it's indicative of a mental illness en masse. This was written about 10 years ago. I will post the follow up that I wrote about two years ago. With the proliferation of white cops slaughtering Black men in the streets, arresting them for nothing more than being black, I will not let their pathology go unchecked.
One
can’t pick up a magazine or listen to a discussion about the black community
these days without reading about “DL brothas”, or black men that have sex with
other men while representing themselves as heterosexual. There is a homoparanoia and fear that is
largely media driven that is telling black women that they need to question
every black man they meet because he might be having sex with other men. Certainly, one has to believe that black men
must be driven by their desires more than any other portion of the population
because this “DL” trend is so rampant among black men, according to every
single, solitary book, article, and discussion prevalent today.
I
have the unique opportunity to be in a position where people come to me and
tell me their fantasies as a function of my career. There is a HUGE and very stealth underground
sexual movement that is growing that has escaped any mainstream examination
whatsoever. While black men’s sexual
practices have been put under a microscope and they have been demonized in the
media as sexually irresponsible and morally bankrupt latent “faggots,” white
men have been able to slip under the radar, with stealth efficacy, with their
sexual secrets. The numbers of white men that come to me and tell me that they
have fantasies of being sexually submissive, not only to black women, but also
to black men, is STAGGERING. Literally,
thousands of white men have approached me in the last several years, all
reiterating very much the same themes in their desires, that they believe that
white people are inferior, that they want to pay for the atrocities of slavery
by their sexual servitude to black people, that black people are more
beautiful.
There
are common themes and consistencies in their fantasies and the types of white
male submissive men can be grouped into three main categories: white men that
want white female partners to engage in interracial sex, white men that want
black female partners and white men that want domination by both black men and
black women. The first group of men, the
men that want their white wives or girlfriends to engage in interracial sex,
are known as cuckolds. Cuckolds are men
that get arousal from having a white wife, commonly referred to as a “slut
wife,” that has multiple black lovers. The husband is forced to live a life of
sexual denial and servitude while the wife has sex with these so called
“superior black bulls.” Servitude can
include anything from getting the wife ready for her lover to cleaning her
orally after her lover has ejaculated inside her, to orally or anally servicing
the black lover himself. Many times, the sexual component is heightened if
there is some level of implied “extortion” or money demanded of the white
submissive male to perform theses homoerotic acts. I’ve had innumerous white men tell me that
they want their wives to be “black bred”, meaning impregnated by a black man
and they are sexually aroused by the idea of their wives forcing them to raise
a biracial child as their own. There’s little
doubt that the origins of these fantasies are steeped in the mythical “Big
Black Mandingo” stereotype as they profess love for his abnormally large penis
while begging to be taunted and humiliated for their comparatively small
endowment. Sexual submission is usually
limited to the bedroom for these men because they seem to be able to
compartmentalize the fact that they are only inferior because of their
perceived, small penis and, on occasion, express angst that they have fantasies
of seeing the black man as superior, even if it is only in a sexual
situation.
The
second category of white male submissive is the men that hold black women in
the highest esteem. These men love and
desire the black woman far more than white woman and very often admire the
natural features of black women that have long been rejected by society at
large. Big butts, dark skin, full lips,
natural hair, and sassy and domineering attitudes are the attributes that they
most readily describe as the epitome of beauty, black or otherwise. The number of occasions when white men have said
they want a black wife to pamper and provide for, to put her on a pedestal as
the true mother of all civilization, are too numerous to mention. Many times, they reiterate the same sorts of
fantasies of the cuckold husband: they want her to have a black lover, but more
often than not, they describe feelings of inadequacy because they believe they
are unable to satisfy or undeserving of having sex with a black woman. They
describe fantasies whereby they are forced by a black woman to engage
homosexual acts as an act of punishment or for her amusement. They reiterate
they same sorts of fantasies about cleaning Black woman of ejaculate deposited by her lover, being
denied orgasm, being “forced” to humble themselves before the black man to show
their unworthiness and inferior
status. The instances of white men
telling me that they want to serve as human toilet to black women are so
commonplace, so frequent, I don’t blink an eye any longer when the topic is
broached. These men describe how it would be an honor to receive the waste of a
black woman and how it is their duty as a white male to do so. Many desire to be subjected to perform
household duties for black women, seemingly with no sexual gratification in
return, only the desire to be humiliated for their whiteness. Most desire to form lifelong, loving
relationships with Black women as adoring pets or servants and most refer to
themselves as slaves.
The
third category of white male submissive is interested whatever forms of
degradation they can receive from whatever Black source that sees fit to dish
it out. They are unashamedly bisexual
and, in many cases, prefer to perform sexual acts with black men. Among this group are the most masochistic of
the population. They are constantly
asking for approval and validation that they truly are inferior to black
people. They confess that they want to
become slaves, stripped of their rights as a human, that they want to pay for
the sins of any white person that owned slaves, and that they want to be
degraded and humiliated for their whiteness. Their fantasies are extreme, many
expressing desires to be lynched and beaten reminiscent of true slavery as part
of their sexual fantasies. Many tell me
that they desire to become black and have romantic notions that they will
become well-endowed athletes or big-bosomed matriarchal archetypes. Several have requested books to read to tell
them of a more accurate Black history than the limited exposure they’ve received. I’ve had white men tell me that they go out
of their way to hire black people, support black businesses, or provide daily
acts of kindness to black people as their own personal form of reparations.
These
examples are the norm not the extreme and I’m confronted with these examples on
a daily basis. It should be noted that
almost 100% of the time, white men use the singular adjective black to describe
the collective of people rather than as a descriptor. i.e. “I want my wife to fuck black, I am
attracted to black, I am a slave for black” rather than the proper usage, “I am
attracted to black women, I want my wife to fuck black men, I desire to be
submissive to black people.” Their
grammatical objectification of us is but a minor indication that they have yet
to shatter the racist beliefs that they claim so boldly to have done.
If
there is any level of validity in my findings, my observations lead me to
believe that there is no concurrent movement by black people whereby we, on any
sort of collective basis, are expressing desires to make white people pay for
the atrocities of slavery or to restore a Black supremist racial hierarchy and
to do so by the sexual subjugation of white people. We seem to be naively playing into the role
of dominatrix and Black bull and walking away from the experience and not being
particularly braggadocios about them either. Those few African American
individuals that have confided in me of experiences with submissive white men
seem to take pity on them that they are so warped in their thinking that they
could actually believe that black people could be superior. In my amateur anthropological opinion, these
black people feel guilty for holding a position of power over white men, even
if it’s only sexually and for brief periods of time. I’ve yet to meet the black person that has
engaged in a sexual liaison with a submissive white man that has truly
recognized the larger political implications.
Many black women have seen this as an opportunity to capitalize on their
“most coveted object” status and made attempts to use white men for money,
which seem to backfire more often than not according to their tales. While very
few black men confide in me about their experiences with submissive white men,
(and one can only assume from the reports of white men that the numbers of
black men that are engaging in these behaviors are equally as staggering) I can
only assume that they feel some sort of temporary reprieve from the stresses
and strains of a racist society while engaged in the act, and as they go on
about their daily lives, they replace their societally-imposed veil of
powerlessness, never recognizing that their true power does not lie in their
penis. Black people, still largely ignorant of our own past, the origins of African
greatness, and still largely brainwashed to believe that white people are
better, are sadly, too uninformed to
assert that they will not be made pawns in a sexual game to rid white
people of their guilt or fulfill their dark continent lust.
There
are a multitude of larger implications that are happening beneath this
absolutely HUGE movement that need to be discussed and simply can’t be unless
the topic is put on the table so that society at large can examine the trend
and not have it kept as white America’s dirty little secret. First and foremost, these men are still, for
the most part, holding onto racist, stereotypical and degrading beliefs about
Black people while they are insisting that their desire to submit to black
people indicates that they are free from all such beliefs. They assume that because they are sexually
attracted to Black people that automatically means they are not racist. Many white men claim they used to harbor
racist beliefs and some sexual event with a black person cured them of their
racism, which is obviously an absurd assumption. If these white men are in fact engaging in
sexual acts with black men as they claim, then the source and spread of HIV in
the Black community needs to be examined.
These white men should be spreading the virus to their partners in equal
proportions to black men.
I
imagine that there are scores of therapists, counselors, sex workers, medical
practitioners and journalists in this country that have the same knowledge as
I. Why aren’t there medical journals and
articles that are discussing this trend and the psychological
implications? Where are the 20/20 and
Dateline exposes, where are the radio talk shows that are discussing this
phenomenon, why isn’t every magazine warning white women about the potential
hazards of white men that are engaging in unsafe sex with black men? Given the current political climate in this
country, with this move to the ultra-moral, ultra-conservative right, what
conclusions can one draw about this population of white men that have this
race-driven guilty, envy, and lust? Are
there white men that are secretly harboring these sexual desires in positions
of power and exacting stricter punishments on black men to assuage them of
their desires to “submit to black?”
Race
in America is still and extremely volatile topic. If there are, as I’ve experienced, multitudes
of white men that are having these types of fantasies and desires, there needs
to be an open and honest discussion in a public forum to determine the origins,
the implications, and to form support groups and allegiances to address the
very important issues that these types of issues bring to the table. White men are begging, even if it is only
privately, to be immersed in a black sexual experience, and they are being led
by individuals that don’t have the ability to train, instruct and accurately
inform. This issue can not be swept
under the table because it upsets the equilibrium of the status quo. White men are desiring to be submissive to
Black people in phenomenal numbers and the reasons why and the social
implications thereof must be discussed.
Copyright
2004 Scottie Lowe
CEO
and Founder of AfroerotiK
