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Erotic provocateur, racially-influenced humanist, relentless champion for the oppressed, and facilitator for social change, Scottie Lowe is the brain child, creative genius and the blood, sweat, and tears behind AfroerotiK. Intended to be part academic, part educational, and part sensual, she, yes SHE gave birth to the website to provide people of African descent a place to escape the narrow-mined, stereotypical, limiting and oft-times degrading beliefs that abound about our sexuality. No, not all Black men are driven by lust by white flesh or to create babies and walk away. No, not all Black women are promiscuous welfare queens. And as hard as it may be to believe, no, not all gay Black men are feminine, down low, or HIV positive. Scottie is putting everything on the table to discuss, debate, and dismantle stereotypes in a healthy exchange of ideas. She hopes to provide a more holistic, informed, and enlightened discussion of Black sexuality and dreams of helping couples be more open, honest, and adventurous in their relationships.

Friday, March 05, 2021

There But For the Grace of God

I might not be able to explain the information to you in a way that will disconnect you from the Matrix but I can try to illustrate how it works.  My prayer is that you receive this understanding in the spirit of love with which I'm sharing it with you.  

You are unique.  You have a unique set of experiences that makes you who you are. You had to be born on a certain date, to a certain set of circumstances that no one else in the world had.  Your brother or sister did not have the EXACT same experience as you because you have a different birth order, your parents might have been young when you were born and going through a divorce when they were born so the way you see the world is different than your sibling.  Every other person on the planet, living or dead is different than you in that you have all had different traumas that have shaped your identity.  Some didn't feel loved. Some felt insecure.  Others experienced abuse and poverty, pain beyond our comprehension. No one else has had the exact same life experiences as you so your thoughts and beliefs and opinions, your convictions and your passions, the stuff that makes you, your personality is unique to you.  You believe yourself to be an individual, alone, separate, different.  

You also believe that everything you know, everything you think to be true the absolute truth. You believe that anyone who doesn't think, act, behave, and believe the exact same way as you is wrong and you're right.  Period the end, no room for discussion.  You're saying to yourself, right now, "I'm not like that, I can admit when I'm wrong, I listen to other people to learn, I'm very open-minded."  

No, you're not.  The human mind is not programmed to embrace concepts that are different than your own. That's what cognitive dissonance is.  It's not something that is only in other people, it's in you.  You have been hard-wired to believe that your choices are the right choices, that your morality is the right morality, that your behaviors are healthy and sane and anyone else who acts, behaves, and thinks differently than you is wrong. It's what makes you defensive angry when you feel like you are being attacked for who you are. when you think someone is challenging what you believe, that  That instinct you have to embellish, hide, obscure, to pretend to be something other than what you really are is the fear of someone judging you.  It's the cycle that never ends.  That's the individualism that's built into our society.  It's the very fabric of our diseased reality.

Subconsciously, you think that other people realize deep down that they're wrong and that if you just assert your position more effectively and you show them that you're smarter and that you know better, you think that other people are supposed to bend to your will and think that you're right and admit that they were ultimately wrong and they've come to see the error of their ways.  

Every single person reading this thinks the same thing.  The way you raise your children is the right way, the way other people do it is wrong if they do something you don't like.  Your religion is the right religion, your lack of religion is the correct belief.  Your political party is the most ethical party.  Your views on abortion, immigration, climate change, homosexuality, guns, the death penalty . . . everything that you believe, you believe is the right position and that anyone who doesn't believe exactly what you believe is wrong.

That's the poison.  

IF you had grown up in the exact same shoes of that person you are so quick to judge, the one who has done something you proudly brag that you would never do because you are too smart, or too moral, or too responsible, whatever it is you say to yourself that makes you think, "I would NEVER do that," . . .  that inner voice that you can't hear but that reinforces your "rightness" is the sin of all sins.  It is the Matrix. 

If you had lived their life, had the exact same experiences and environment as they did, if you had the exact same traumas that shaped them, not just a mile but if you had walked their entire life in their shoes, you would make the exact same choices and mistakes and total fuck ups.  Your inability to see that is the veil of illusion.  We are supposed to see ourselves in all of humanity.  We are supposed to treat everyone the way we would want to be treated because we are all Divine Loving Consciousness.  We are all supposed to say, "There but for the grace of God, go I," not, "Oh my God, I would never do XYZ.  Why doesn't that person do the right thing, do ABC, like I would do."  

If your soul had shared the same body as Adolf Hitler, you would have done the exact same thing as he did because he, like you, believed his perspective and worldview is the only right one.  It's not like he said, "I know this is wrong and I'm going to do it anyway."  He said, essentially, "I'm doing the exact right thing based on my experiences and worldview and anyone who doesn't agree with me is wrong."  Everyone fails to see that we are more alike than we are different and that we are all capable of bein dark and immoral, we are capable of making poor choices and doing fucked up sht.  We all are good and bad and there is not judgement in that. We are all good and bad.  It's in each of us.   

Again, you're saying, "Well, it's a good thing I've never done anything like what you're talking about.  I'm not like that at all."  

Yes, you are, it's the program that's running that keeps you disconnected from your true LOVING, kind, compassionate, selfless self.    It's the software that keeps you enslaved in the Matrix. 

That's the original sin.  You thinking you are separate from everyone else.  You judging.  You thinking you're better than everyone else who doesn't think and emote and reason and respond the exact same way as you is flawed and it's the veil over your consciousness, it's keeping you from your greatness, joy, and freedom.  

Until you see the homeless person, the rapist, the person you hate the most as yourself, you're still trapped in the Matrix.  Until you come to truly understand that every single person believes that their singular world view, their reality based on their life experiences is the right, true, justified belief, you're still in the Matrix.  If you were born a white male in Indiana in the 1950s and you saw the world though his eyes, you would understand why he's racist and sexist and a douche bag or whatever judgements you have about him or whomever you find offensive because they don't have the same beliefs as you.  If you had lived the life of privilege and dysfunction Kim Kardashian had lived, you'd make the exact same choices she makes because you would have had a different set of life experiences to shape your identity.  

You won't be able to see the pattern or behavior in yourself but you'll b able to see it keenly in other people.  You'll be able to recognize how people judge others for not having the same experiences in life and for not making the same choices and for having different beliefs. 

If you can see the behavior in other people, other people can see it in you.  "They" don't want you to do unto others as you would have done to you.  They want you to feel like you in constant competition with the world, they want you to feel like you have to have the last word, you have to hold the longest grudge, you have to win.  You have to prove that you're right and they're wrong. 

Introspection is the key to self awareness and freedom.  The more you can look inside at your own shit, the more you can concern yourself with healing your own misperceptions and flawed thinking, when you STOP rationalizing that you're right in every situation and you're never wrong, you are not just trapped in the Matrix, you are subscribing, liking and sharing in the poisonous agenda that keeps us from our true identities.