AfroerotiK

Erotic provocateur, racially-influenced humanist, relentless champion for the oppressed, and facilitator for social change, Scottie Lowe is the brain child, creative genius and the blood, sweat, and tears behind AfroerotiK. Intended to be part academic, part educational, and part sensual, she, yes SHE gave birth to the website to provide people of African descent a place to escape the narrow-mined, stereotypical, limiting and oft-times degrading beliefs that abound about our sexuality. No, not all Black men are driven by lust by white flesh or to create babies and walk away. No, not all Black women are promiscuous welfare queens. And as hard as it may be to believe, no, not all gay Black men are feminine, down low, or HIV positive. Scottie is putting everything on the table to discuss, debate, and dismantle stereotypes in a healthy exchange of ideas. She hopes to provide a more holistic, informed, and enlightened discussion of Black sexuality and dreams of helping couples be more open, honest, and adventurous in their relationships.

Monday, August 21, 2006

Do Black men have bigger dicks?



Black people have bigger noses, bigger lips, bigger asses, why on earth is it so hard to conceive that Black men have bigger dicks. Overall, more often than not, in general, the answer is yes, black men have bigger dicks. Of course not every single one is big but by and large, yes, brothas pack more. I’ve seen quite a few dicks that were larger than average, all of which belong to black men. I’ve seen a few on black men that were obscenely large and scared the hell out of me. I saw one that was so big it hit him in the chin and he told me that his doctor told me that he was in the top 4% of men with large penises. I was terrified by that thing and I had to fight to get him out of my apartment. I can’t even imagine what the top 3% looked like cuz that thing was bigger than a horse dick. (He was a neighbor, not a date btw)

I think this topic is one that must be explored in great depth. I have conversations with white men daily, DAILY, that beg me to look at their little dicks, that tell me beg me to humiliate them on cam and insist that I must love to laugh at little white weenies. When I tell them that I have no such inclinations, that's when they insist that I only like Big Black Cocks. They can't seem to comprehend that I love black men for far more than just their genitals and they get offended when I say that they are racist for objectifying Black men for their penises. Usually, they then launch into some diatribe about how black men can't raise their children, or how all they are good for is sports and how they all want to fuck white women. I guess when I call them out for their racist behavior that triggers their true racist feelings and they can't stop themselves from spilling their racist guts.

It's been my experience that black men do have larger penises than white men. I've seen more than my fair share of tiny micro penises on white men and dicks that are far less than average. Black men fall in the average to above average range in almost every case that I've seen with very few exceptions. Now, that being said, I don't think penis size has a god damn thing to do with being a man, masculinity, or giving me sexual pleasure. I think it's a dangerous thing for black men to identify themselves with their dick size because the men that aren't packing 11 inches are somehow made to feel less than a man. I know quite a few black men that have chosen to live a gay lifestyle or choose to be sexually submissive to women because they feel like they could never satisfy a woman with their completely sufficient, fully functioning average sized penis.

It breaks my heart every time I see a brotha with a screen name that references his dick size and then says that he wants to (insert some metaphor for fucking that references hurting a woman with his dick). I want black men to see themselves as more than just a dick to fuck white wives while white husbands watch. I want black men to equate their manhood with being a full, well-rounded human being, able to process their emotions, able to be introspective, able to communicate openly with their partner. Brothas don't get that fucking white women for the entertainment of cuckold hubbies does not make them more of a man. It doesn't make white men respect them more. In fact, it makes them respect them less because all they do is see Black men as savage Mandingos, not as complex human beings. Most times, white men are quick to tell me that they think its degrading to have their wives "fuck black" because black men are such big dicked beasts. These brothas are just fueling the racist beliefs of white people and degrading themselves in the process. YET NOT ONE is addressing the fact that interracial porn is the largest growing segment of the adult industry and that 100% of the images perpetuate Black men in a negative light.

Sadly, there are more than a few black men with average penises, 5-6 inches, that somehow think that they aren't living up to the ideal of black manhood, that are suffering psychologically, It’s an ugly byproduct of the myth. It is equally as tragic that brothas with 8-9 inch dicks feel inferior because of this outrageous standard of Black masculinity. I find that a lot of brothas with average sized dicks SAY that they have much bigger dicks in order to feel like they fit into the brotherhood. Black men with large penises are, in far too many instances, the least emotionally evolved individuals because they've accepted their role as Mandingo to the detriment of building strong relationships. We need to redefine black manhood so that penis size has nothing to do with manhood.

I've asked for years now for brothas to speak up and discuss how the fact that they have an average sized or small penis has affected their self-esteem and self-perception as a Black man. Good thing I wasn't holding my breath for an answer. With such a dirty little secret how can we ever heal as a people?

5 comments:

Keepmeup said...

Being a black man (African American I take pride in who I am. & I can say being above average at 8. sometimes u might feel u might not b the size that a women is used to. They tell u they have been with this man & that man so what might b good for a women of another race might not be good for a black women.U want to say size does not matter but lets face it 9 times ot of 10 it does.

Anonymous said...

I'm a black man who's average size, and I'm quite happy with it. I have something that most men don't. Longetivity. I can last for two, three hours.

Anonymous said...

Excellent Article.
I am proud of my brothers with big cocks!
I am a black male and I have a 5.5 inch cock. I would be lying if I said I would enjoy having a larger member; however, like cheering a great singer, mathematics major or great athelete God has given us exactly what we need.
As far as black males having the biggest dicks they just might, and that's cool. If not that's cool too! As for me I masturbate and enjoy every bit of my 5.5 inch cock every night. I would encourage everyone to enjoy and be thankful for what they have!

Jason M. Miller said...

A highly inspirational article if I do say so myself; being an African American male in today's society (as well as in the military) I have grown to accept, appreciate, and absolutely love who I am. Being slight above average (7 and 1/4 inches) I have had the pleasure of being with females and now my wife, who has not only enjoyed my every inch, but loved it, especially my wife.
She doesn't think I need an extra few inches (as I've wished for in my early insecure years) and now that I've grown up more and lived a more fuller life, I don't want anymore inches either. If I was meant to be the next Mandingo or Lexington Steele, then I'd be 10/11
inches now. I've been with women in the past before my wife that had guys bigger than me and they weren't satisfied, simply impressed by the sight alone. After reading this article, I completely agree with all that's said: Black men are viewed by White America as overly well hung savage beasts with an undying sex drive; that white women crave because of this myth/sometimes fact. The truth of the matter is, we're not all sex fiends (well I am, but that's a psychological issue that I'm working on, but my wife likes it every night) we're actually normal, functional/dysfunctional hard working human beings with different complexities that makes us unique from one Black man to the next. We do create our own stigmas and dig our own graves most of the time, but we're still trying and learning to be ourselves and our best inspiration and resource is of course, the black woman, and woman in general. So hopefully one day our dick sizes won't matter at all and we are measured by only our aptitude of knowledge, common sense, and bases of morale and faith.

Anonymous said...

This is the most natural explanation I've ever heard. Of course it is a natural feature of so many black guys. For me, a massive consumer of interracial "products" :), there is no surprise in this.
The thing is, that while white woman can make some surgery for their butts and lips, not to mention filling their tits with silicone, white man is not supported by any technology that will help to "inflate" his penis and fill that average gap he has with black man....