Wednesday, December 10, 2008
Do openly bisexual Black men really exist?
I'm only interested in openly bisexual Black men as partners. I'm not attracted to bi men who are DL, the ones who can't admit that they are physically or emotionally attracted to other men. I'm not looking for a super freaky threesome either. The last reason I'm looking for a bisexual man is sexual. I'm interested in openly bisexual Black men for many reasons, primarily because I'm attracted to men who have let go of absurd notions of gender and sexuality. I’m interested in bisexual men who can acknowledge that their manhood and masculinity aren't defined by how they experience pleasure. I'm only attracted to men who can distance themselves from the misogynist, patriarchal, sexist, oppressive notions of what it is to be man and how society tells men to relate to women. Men who have redefined their notions of top and bottom and see themselves as sexual beings without labels arouse me. I'm attracted to bisexual men for a host of socio-political reasons but I can't seem to find a bisexual man who is interested in forming a relationship with me. They either prefer men or they find some excuse to display knee jerk homophobia in front of other people. I desire an openly bisexual man. That doesn't mean that he has to wear a t-shirt in public saying "I like Dick," but he at least has to speak up when people say antiquated, homophobic comments. He can't pretend to be straight around people and then only admit his sexual attraction to men behind closed doors. We are so distorted and warped as a people; our sexuality is so unhealthy and dysfunctional that I'm beginning to think that openly bisexual men don't exist.
This is actually a great question. In one way I agree that people should blur the lines more about gender and sexuality.
ReplyDeleteWe are sexual people and attraction sometimes is not based on gender. On the other hand I wonder about the label of bi-sexual...I don't really think someone can be bi-sexual.
Either way I agree that more men...black and other races should be more honest and open.
Openly bi sexual men do exist even though they seem to be few in numbers I have met a few. the reason so many are on the el is simply because of a fear. we fear not being accepted we fear isolating our selves from family and friends and we fears disappointing the God we worship. and I like the term bisexual homosexual and heterosexual they are colorless terms that have less of a specific cultural association with them unlike DL and gay
ReplyDeleteMaybe I'm slow. Maybe I am too conservative and stunted sexually. But, I'm very uncomfortable for any woman to sexually desire bisexual men. While I think you want a man who sincerely wants you and can go there without limits..bisexual??? is just too far out there ( I want limits ). I think you mentioned in a earlier post about the need for fidelity in your future relationship...doesn't this bisexual rant conflict with your hearts desire ?
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