Erotic provocateur, racially-influenced humanist, relentless champion for the oppressed, and facilitator for social change, Scottie Lowe is the brain child, creative genius and the blood, sweat, and tears behind AfroerotiK. Intended to be part academic, part educational, and part sensual, she, yes SHE gave birth to the website to provide people of African descent a place to escape the narrow-mined, stereotypical, limiting and oft-times degrading beliefs that abound about our sexuality. No, not all Black men are driven by lust by white flesh or to create babies and walk away. No, not all Black women are promiscuous welfare queens. And as hard as it may be to believe, no, not all gay Black men are feminine, down low, or HIV positive. Scottie is putting everything on the table to discuss, debate, and dismantle stereotypes in a healthy exchange of ideas. She hopes to provide a more holistic, informed, and enlightened discussion of Black sexuality and dreams of helping couples be more open, honest, and adventurous in their relationships.

Monday, December 28, 2015

Step on a Crack, Break your Mother's Back

In my lifetime advances in technology have been astounding.  I’ve been fortunate enough to witness rotary phones become push button phones, then came answering machines which in turn became voicemail, beepers evolved into cell phones.  I’ve seen cell phones go from being only able to make calls, to texting, to having access to the internet, being cameras, calculators, music players, guidance systems, and countless applications that allow you to do almost anything.  Now, there are watches no bigger than a matchbook that are cell phones.  Television in my lifetime has gone from huge consoles with four channels to ½ inch thick high definition devices with 1000s of channels.  The internet itself is nothing short of miraculous considering that access to information was relegated to having access to whatever library that was closest to you.  The military can now fly remotely-operated drones that are size of mosquitoes.  Certainly, 1000s of years from now, this time in history will be marked as one of the greatest leaps in technological advancement in recorded history. 

What hasn’t evolved, what has devolved in fact, what has remained stagnant and medieval is the consciousness of humanity.  This time in history will be recorded as when the beliefs of the masses remained medieval and willfully ignorant.  People refuse to evolve, they intentionally hold on to oppressive and unenlightened beliefs.  It’s one thing to believe that the earth is flat if all you have is a simple telescope.  It’s quite another arrogant and ignorant thing to assert that there is no other live forms in the UNIVERSE other than Earth.  The universe is infinite.  Infinite.  To suggest that there is no other life in the universe other than Earth is as stupid as claiming that the moon is made of cheese. 

Sexuality and religion are the areas where people remain the most willfully ignorant.  To believe that God, the creator of all, the consciousness that perfectly organizes everything in nature is a male is akin to believing that you can fall off the edge of the earth.  Spiritually, we are an intentionally and woefully myopic.  It’s profoundly shameful that we are still intent to hold on to ridiculous concepts like heaven and hell and a devil and a God who doesn’t want you to experience pleasure unless you are married.  All men have the potential to be aroused when anally stimulated.  Every single solitary one.  There is nothing that makes some men experience pleasure anally and others not.  A man does not automatically become feminine if he experiences pleasure anally, it’s not even an indication that he is homosexual but the vast and overwhelming majority of humanity at this time believes that if a man experiences pleasure anally, he’s gay.  It’s shameful to be so ignorant in this day and age yet we are. 

The collective intellect of people today is pitifully and shamefully low.  With vast amounts of information literally at our fingertips, people don’t read, they don’t learn, they don’t question, they don’t study.  Even higher education is woefully substandard.  The race of people who kidnapped, enslaved, raped, murdered, and sold HUMAN BEINGS like cattle is considered the most evolved.  That, to  me, is the most absurd of all of our collective beliefs.  Anyone who could beat, torture, abuse, rape, enslave, and murder another race of people for their own financial benefit should absolutely be considered the most barbaric race of people alive.  Yet Black women sew yak hair to their heads to emulate the hair of our oppressor and we idolize light skin as if it gives Blacks more value because they are close to being white.   Black people hold on to the beliefs of the plantation and are proud of it.  They brag that want to believe what their grandparents taught them, never once considering that education was intentionally withheld from our ancestors for a reason, to keep us dumb. 

We are emotionally immature as a race of people, the human race.  Lying has become so commonplace, people don’t even feel bad about it.   We are not enlightened.  We are not evolved.  We are not educated.  We are holding on to superstitions and stupidity that should have died out thousands of years ago.  We are on a collision course of epic proportions if you do not lift our collective consciousness in our lifetimes. 

Friday, December 18, 2015

Your Sexual Secrets

The advent of the personal computer and the internet has created what I’m convinced is an epidemic of unhealthy behaviors.  EVERYONE, with so few exceptions as to be barely negligible, looks at, masturbates to, and is aroused by the myriad of porn and the extreme and various genres that are available literally at our fingertips.

Everyone has a sexual online identity that they would NEVER share with anyone else, that they don’t want another human being to know that they compartmentalize, hide, deny, and don’t acknowledge to even themselves.  Look at the user-submitted video sites online.  Look at how many videos are submitted DAILY that show people engaged in sexual behaviors that would never be considered mainstream or even discussion for polite society.  Even those of us who admit that we look at porn have sites we visit, we have things that arouse us that we would never share with another human being, not even our significant other.  The amount of extreme, fetish, and bizarre content that is available is all the proof I need.  It’s impossible to believe that only a handful of people are creating the volumes of extreme sexual content that exists online.  And for every individual who feels comfortable creating a video of themselves doing really extreme things, there are 10s of thousands, 100s of thousands, perhaps millions of individuals who would NEVER create or share a video of themselves, who would never comment on forums or message boards or take a chance that someone would link them with a subject matter that could be considered deviant. 

When I was growing up my mother had a collection of porn that was graphic and extreme and explicit.  To say that it was hardcore would be an understatement, it included every genre other than those that would be considered illegal.  My mother is as sexually-repressed and conservative, religious (hyper religious in fact), and as “normal” as the next person.  If she had that sort of collection, long before the internet was even a concept, then there is no way to convince me that in this day and age people’s normal curiosity doesn’t lead them, even those people who profess to be bastions of morality and chastity, to look at material that is “bizarre and weird”.  That sort of compartmentalization is unhealthy.   I look at porn that is bizarre and extreme and I happen to think that my sexual practices are far more conservative than most people.  I don’t’ compartmentalize my sexuality.  I make very concerted efforts to be honest with my partners about the types of things that have aroused me late at night, when I’m horny and lonely and desperate for arousal.    I’ve graduated from looking at the more tame genres to seeking out things that were once repulsive to me.  I know that when I do find a partner with whom I’m willing to share my body and my fantasies, that there will come a day when I MUST share ALL the things that have aroused me over the years.  I have to do that for myself, for our relationship, for the opportunity to be completely honest with not only him but with myself.

How many of us are ashamed of our sexuality?  We think that what we like, desire, fantasize about in private is different, extreme, and dirty in comparison to what society tells us is acceptable, to what other people like.  We don’t want to express our true desires to our lovers because we are afraid we will be judged, that we will be seen as abnormal, because we’ve been socialized to believe that what goes on between our legs is bad, dirty, and shameful. Join with me as we begin a new chapter in our lives in which we view our sexuality through different eyes, embrace our sensuality as part of our spirituality, and we begin to rethink the ways in which we’ve been taught to view pleasure at the various stages of our life. It's that sort of thinking that is revolutionary and AfroerotiK. 

Monday, December 07, 2015

Willful Ignorance

It’s the 21st century.  We are living in a time when we have more access to information, to knowledge than any other time in recorded history.  It amazes me, it astounds me actually, the willful ignorance that abounds about sex and sexuality in this day and time truly boggles my mind.  We might as well be living in The Dark Ages with leeches to treat deadly plagues because people, the vast and overwhelming majority of people, believe the most stupid, asinine things about sexuality.   

Being bisexual does not mean that you have to be equally attracted to both men and women.  Being bisexual does not mean that you automatically want to form a romantic, emotional relationship with someone of the same gender, it simply means that you can have sex with both genders.  Just because you have a preference for one gender over the other that does not mean that you are somehow heterosexual.  It’s very possible to be sexually aroused by both genders without your masculinity or femininity being altered in any way.  If you are blindfolded and you are sexually stimulated you will be aroused regardless of the gender of person.  If a woman is sexually aroused by other women that does not mean she is going to become masculine NOR does it mean that a man is going to become feminine if he is sexually aroused by other men.  

Men and women have the EXACT same anatomy that allows them to experience arousal and pleasure when stimulated anally.  That’s not entirely true.  Men have a prostate that women do not have and when the prostate is stimulated, it provides pleasure.  Not just gay men.  Not just feminine men.  Not just some men.  ALL men have the potential to experience pleasure when stimulated anally.  It has nothing to do with a man’s sexual preference or his masculinity.  Bottoms, tops, sissies etc., they are all labels that reinforce the false belief that being a woman is synonymous with being submissive, being humiliated, being degraded and I have news for you, those things are not inherent to women.  There is no genetic markers that make women predisposed to being slapped, spit on, gangbanged or used.  If a man is anally aroused, putting on a dress and wearing stockings and heels does not make him a woman.  

Unfortunately, common sense, logic, reason, and facts have no bearing on the absurdity that people believe about sex and sexuality.  Black people especially.  Because we expect men to be one-dimensional, hyper-masculine Neanderthals, we claim that there is no such thing as bisexuality, that a man has to be gay if he is sexually aroused by both genders and that he’s just denying it.  Because we are so desperate to believe the white man’s religion that was beaten into us, we turn our backs on plain truths that can’t be denied.  There is no big bad sky daddy who watches what we do in the bedroom and who is offended by our pleasure.  We believe all sorts of truly stupid things: that the tightness of a man’s jeans or the color of his shirt can determine if he’s bisexual, that only bisexual men are responsible for the spread of HIV.  This is 2015 and people really believe that.  There is too much information at our fingertips, there is too much damn porn in genres that have to be seen to actually be believed that prove beyond all reasonable doubt that people are aroused by far more than heterosexual, missionary sex on a Friday night with the lights out.  Yet we live in willful ignorance and pretend that humans are supposed to be asexual and chaste.  I’ll tell you what’s a sin.  It’s sinful that we choose to be so close-minded and brainwashed.