tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19215166.post2285871189599490791..comments2024-03-06T06:27:30.121-05:00Comments on AfroerotiK: A Question for Black Women about Submissive White MenAfroerotiKhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17426843368352368800noreply@blogger.comBlogger33125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19215166.post-47828769057309981262019-08-08T05:20:09.589-04:002019-08-08T05:20:09.589-04:00I am a submissive white man, aged 30. I ALWAYS kne...I am a submissive white man, aged 30. I ALWAYS knew I was a submissive. Throughout my youth I was mainly in vanilla relationships, then bdsm relationships with white domme (I come from a country where 95% of people is white). I never had a fetish for one ethnicity or the other, I like beautiful girls of any color (blondes, gingers, brunettes, latinas, black, asian, middle-eastern). Anyway having moved abroad to countries more ethnically diverse I was able to meet different dommes and I found out a lot of black girls like to be dommes. I have been an oral slave for many and love to be facesitted and worship them. In one case a married black woman told me black men don't like to go down and her black husband never went down on her, that's why she replied to my ads. We saw each other often and towards the end she started making me clean-up her husband's creampies as well, we had a fantasy of her and her husband having sex on top of my face while I licked her and then cleaned her up but it never happened. It's still one of my biggest fantasiesAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19215166.post-18710339213485782082018-05-28T07:43:17.217-04:002018-05-28T07:43:17.217-04:00I've been in both dom and sub roles. My lifest...I've been in both dom and sub roles. My lifestyle is very physical and demanding. Giving my self completly to the needs of a black woman is extremely erotic. Not knowing how she will use me. Degrade me or even humiliate me..i do know that there is nothing I wouldn't do for her pleasure ..Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13292082673697297784noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19215166.post-68137564134146376022016-07-21T14:39:35.266-04:002016-07-21T14:39:35.266-04:00I have a white live in slave ,for a black femdom,f...I have a white live in slave ,for a black femdom,for four years.It not the color of her skin,that make her dominant.It's her personality,her natural prasanna.For me being white,and submissive.It was my preference, I am always attracted to black women.That being said, I love being a slave to my Mistress,she is my Goddess,my counselor,my Superior.slave stanAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14241965921159350422noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19215166.post-76311907031393232742016-05-14T17:16:55.540-04:002016-05-14T17:16:55.540-04:00I AM A SUBMISSIVE WHITE MALE MY WIFE IS AFRICAN AN...I AM A SUBMISSIVE WHITE MALE MY WIFE IS AFRICAN AND A DOMINANT BEAUTIFUL WOMAN I DON,T SEE ANY PROBLEM WITH IT SHE HAS TOTAL CONTROL OVER ME I AM HERS TO DO WHAT SHE WANTS WITH I AM KEPT IN A CHASTITY CAGE 24/7 FOR HER USE ONLY AS YOU KNOW AFRICAN LADY,S DON,T TRUST MEN VERY MUCH OUR RELATIONSHIP IS LOVING AND A HAPPY ONE I HAVE BEEN WITH ONE OTHER DOMINANT AFRICAN LADY BEFORE MY NOW WIFEsimota subhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03656500094370061392noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19215166.post-20874823762132218742015-07-16T12:00:29.379-04:002015-07-16T12:00:29.379-04:00I refuse to post the second part of the white dude...I refuse to post the second part of the white dude's comments because they are even more racist and delusional and I just don't have the energy to deal with their insanity. AfroerotiKhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17426843368352368800noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19215166.post-69979070430741602902015-07-16T08:01:18.338-04:002015-07-16T08:01:18.338-04:00The fact that a white psychotherapist came up with...The fact that a white psychotherapist came up with these overly simplistic and misguided assumptions about race and sexuality makes me understand even better how white men can be so deluded and feel perfectly justified in their pathologies. AfroerotiKhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17426843368352368800noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19215166.post-76578771190148842492015-07-16T06:37:40.728-04:002015-07-16T06:37:40.728-04:00"feel that I'm still feeling the curse of..."feel that I'm still feeling the curse of being sexually repressed as a women of color."<br /><br />I am a white male from the upper class. I am a certified hypnotherapist and psychotherapist. I have also been a lifelong dominant and trained a number of Fem-Dommes. Having watched and assisted in these dynamics for many decades, I would like to offer these comments.<br /><br />First, for as "animalistically sexual" black people are perceived, I personally find the vast majority of them to be quite provincial in their sexual attitudes, even those highly promiscuous males with any number of babysmamas in the wings. BDSM, bestiality, group sex, bisexuality and cuckolding are generally very Repressed.<br /><br />I think the Black Male-White Female pairing has always been more common because it is driven more by the female, as all sexual submission is driven by the submissive. I am sure this sounds an odd statement, but the fact is the dominant is doing their best to live out the submissive's fantasy. We always hope that our kink of the midgets, Great Dane and the Shetland Pony are hers, and push as we might, in the end the submissive's needs drive the bus.<br /><br />I think the Black Male Dom is more common because black males have been openly abused and marginalized as men for centuries. The US Federal Government even made it so a family with a working male on minimum wage would have a lower income than if the male left and the woman was single and on welfare. This gave rise to a naturally development of female dominated core families in the black community.<br /><br />That said the dominant white male and submissive black female is not considered shocking. There is the history of Massa using his slave girl, whereas a black male looking at a white woman in the south was a hanging offense for years, so the openly mating of white female to black male raises eyebrows for a number of reasons. First, being she should Not Like that sort of thing. It is a white female being openly sexual. I am speaking of longterm sexual morals views here, not more recent developments. <br />cont in part 2<br />Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13289355394125672722noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19215166.post-16852664236852424152015-01-07T23:39:48.152-05:002015-01-07T23:39:48.152-05:00Well, I am a white male. I have dated almost every...Well, I am a white male. I have dated almost every ethnicity you can think of. And I can honestly say that color really does NOT dictate a persons sexual nature.<br /><br /> I have dated black women who wanted to be choked, double-teamed, put on collars and treated like basic whores... And I have ALSO dated black women who enjoyed being dominant from time to time.<br /><br />I will say this, I personally have a foot fetish. And the times I've been submissive & kissing a woman's feet... there is something more exciting about kissing a black woman's feet. I've asked myself why, and my personal conclusion is that in society I AM NOT SUPPOSED TO BE BOWING DOWN AT THE FEET OF A BLACK WOMAN, so it just adds a stronger elimate of kink to it. <br /><br /> Hope that helps with your discussion.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19215166.post-90840408300764425942014-04-16T23:30:58.192-04:002014-04-16T23:30:58.192-04:00Wow, I've read these comments regarding black ...Wow, I've read these comments regarding black sexuality and feel that I'm still feeling the curse of being sexually repressed as a women of color. Here's some of the things that I'm appalled when reading: I am a Black Domme that has been dating white men for over 35 years secretly off and on, when it was considered taboo to date, let alone to speak of sexual fetishes.<br /><br />What I enjoy about white men over my brothers, is that their in tuned with their sexuality for the most part. I may offend some brothers but frankly, I can care less. White men for the most part are romantic, highly sensual, intimate, and more concerned about the needs of their counterparts over my brothers, not all, but most! Whereas, I've witnessed first hand, family members, co-workers and friends that are more concerned about, I'm going to get mine and fuck the bitch! I've heard this comment many of times and if any of you that's reading this say that you haven't heard it or have experienced it, you've been living under a rock. <br /><br />As far as the Big Black Dick fallacy, I've been with 2 Beautiful hung brothers that were my husbands and couldn't fuck their way out of a wet paper bag! We made beautiful children and that was it, I felt like Ms, Ceily on the Color Purple. (He's doing his business on me) Please excuse my expressive language. <br /><br />Do I enjoy being served, you Damn right! Yes, my sub takes very good care of me! We both have accepted each other's nasty, animalistic, abnormal sexuality behaviors. I love the things that he allows me to explore with his body! Yes, here's my property without the piece of paper! He chose me to be his Queen, in this Female led-Relationship. He's always wanted this type of relationship and I have always had these type relationships even with my pussy whipped black husbands, it's all the same just different players.<br /><br />Most wonder why, I've chosen this style of relationship, I feel safe, loved mutually and have all my sexual needs and desires met. As a young girl growing up I was born a "Dominate Female", competed in sports, law enforcement career and have always beat men in anything that I've competed against them. My partner in my law enforcement career, told me that I was his partner ever because I used my intelligence and physical abilities on the street! So yes, I've been a Domme my entire life and proud of it! No I'm not a Lesbian! Yes, black domme exist but we allow society to label us as whores, sexually deviants, white men undercover lovers and a few other terms that I refuse to use at this time. Moreover, I love my black men, just not for my sexual gratification any longer. I've raised 3 very intelligent brothers and hopefully they decide what they truly want when it comes to their sexuality! <br /><br />Most black men come from a female dominate single Mother that chastised, whipt yo ass and then some, so stop the drama, that a woman didn't or hasn't ruled your world! Don't lie to yourself.<br /><br />As I end this rant, Sisters, please if you are Dominate, be yourself, explore your sexuality, whether you find it with a black sub, white sub or whatever color. Embrace your sexuality and enjoy life!<br /><br />It's time for my man to draw my bath water and polish my toes before bed!!<br /><br />Peace be unto you!<br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19215166.post-37454668002412175252013-12-18T09:02:13.408-05:002013-12-18T09:02:13.408-05:00Hallmanfrank@yahoo.comHallmanfrank@yahoo.comAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19215166.post-70806070881968650732013-11-09T09:07:25.061-05:002013-11-09T09:07:25.061-05:00I am a submissive white man & I do have a very...I am a submissive white man & I do have a very strong desire to be used for the sexual pleasure of Black women & men. I am a natural sub never had a desire to Dominante. I derive my pleasure from being used for the pleasure of others. Had only 1 Black Mistress and got together a few times with a Black men altough he really wasn't a Dominant he would use me for his pleasure. Actually the longest Dom/sub relationship I had was with a white woman who was 15yrs my senior.Still hopeing one day to find my Black Mistress.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05669058948954035526noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19215166.post-27387268466272152982013-03-29T08:04:51.701-04:002013-03-29T08:04:51.701-04:00I am by nature a submissive male, who knows full w...I am by nature a submissive male, who knows full well that Black Women are far superior to us whites. <br /><br />And I earnestly desire to be a the sex slave of a Black Mistress, and have Her use me in any way She may wish for Her pleasure.<br /><br />I desperately want to have Her dildo as far inside my body as its length will allow it to go, either down my throat, or up my rear passage.<br /><br />But best of all, if She was pleased with the way I had performed, then I can think of no greater honour than to have Her reward me by using me as Her toilet. <br /><br /><br /> <br /><br />I love to eat a black woman's shitFaceunder1https://www.blogger.com/profile/06924144305787218281noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19215166.post-80493925215380837172012-10-22T21:50:54.044-04:002012-10-22T21:50:54.044-04:00I am new to domination of white men as well. But ...I am new to domination of white men as well. But I know it is an addiction that I cannot seem to control. I want to be abused by them sexually as well as abuse them sexually and verbally. I have been reaching out and finding a few subs that I feeel comfortable with. But have yet to become physical. I agree, that you have to be extra careful because many white men have mommy hate issues and can become loose cannons.<br />Thanks for the info....Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01638427951606238669noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19215166.post-3385326549085784082012-08-26T08:18:24.689-04:002012-08-26T08:18:24.689-04:00Ultimately, B/W racism is a box; in that box, BP a...Ultimately, B/W racism is a box; in that box, BP are this-and-that and WP are thus-and-so. These scenarios don't challenge the box in any way (at best, they just play around inside it; switching/tweaking the roles, but not rejecting them— and most don't really even do that). <b>So to me it makes perfect sense that they don't appeal to BP! Why the hell would I make a fantasy that's exactly like the reality I'm trying to escape??</b> That does nothing for me. And if it's not for me, who is it for…?? <br />Yeah. <br /><i>Exactly.</i> <br />Well, I'm not into service.<br /><br />[Sorry for the length— I don't get to talk about this much, lol. Believe it or not, I have a LOT more thoughts on this issue. Also, sorry for any possible nonsensicalness and/or typos; I'm writing this reeeally late at night! :) ]workneveroverhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14588702060677420109noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19215166.post-81830205279576611182012-08-26T08:16:49.453-04:002012-08-26T08:16:49.453-04:00Thing #2. (This applies more to het black women, b...Thing #2. (This applies more to het black women, but black men are affected by this too.) All three of these fantasies are actually fundamentally the same: they're ALL about white male insecurity, mostly expressed as penis insecurity, which is in turn expressed as (racist) black-male-penis envy. That's problematic, obviously, but also, <i><b>it has nothing to do with black women.</b></i> BWs are just… entirely missing there. In scenarios like this, there's no appreciation of the actual woman in front of them; you're not you, just "a (any) black woman," or yes, even more generic: "black." Just: blackness, the stereotyped concept. Furthermore, <i>there's no chance for D/s intimacy.</i> What I mean is, one can't get true submission from a man like this. It's just precluded. There's no submitting to You; it's really about some generic, racist concept of blackness. Bottom line: what's in it for a straight dominant black woman?? She'd be guilt-ridden, unsatisfied and unappreciated, respectively.<br /><br />And even without all that, the simple fact is, (#3):<br /><i>"there is no concurrent movement by black people whereby we, on any sort of collective basis, are expressing desires to make white people pay for the atrocities of slavery or to restore [sic] a Black supremist racial hierarchy and to do so by the sexual subjugation of white people."</i>And the assumption that there would be strikes me as vaguely white-racist. To be blunt, as far as I can tell via <i>my</i> amateur anthropology, WP have much MUCH more racial anxiety than BP do. And it's mostly white <i>men.</i> Anxiety in the form of white guilt, because at the end of the day, we (we all, and even more, they) haven't made peace with that history as a society. Anxiety about penis size: about having "their women" "taken" or "lured away," and assuaging their insecurities by satisfying a (any) black woman (because you know we're built for that huge black cock! And also: take that, black manhood!). But most of all, <i><b>anxiety about retribution</b></i> in the form of the assumption that a/any BP, given power, will use it to exact revenge. Because they <b>know</b> it was atrocious, and it hasn't been reconciled and in fact continues. (I believe the saying is "you fear that you'll get exactly what you deserve"??) But from what I can tell, the truth is, most BP aren't looking for vengeance. At least, <i>I've</i> yet to meet one. [to be continued]workneveroverhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14588702060677420109noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19215166.post-66649935045640382642012-08-26T08:16:24.865-04:002012-08-26T08:16:24.865-04:00[Loooong comment, posted in 3 parts]
"I’ve ye...[Loooong comment, posted in 3 parts]<br /><i>"I’ve yet to meet the black person that has engaged in a sexual liaison with a submissive white man that has truly recognized the larger political implications."</i><br /><br />Well, today's the day! :)<br />If I'm understanding this, the question is, "where are all the black doms to fill this demand?" Or, why aren't there any. I think it's pretty obvious. All three of the main themes described in the linked post (a list which I agree is 100% accurate) are based on pretty blatant <b>racism</b>. The linked post says as much, but it seems like the most obvious implications of that are being missed, if this is a question…? <br /><br />First, This entire phenomenon as described is a FETISH and I for one find it repulsive. It literally makes me feel queasy, and if I catch even a hint of it, I head in the other direction. It's not like black people are too stupid to notice when we're being fetishized/exotified/stereotyped, or don't care. "Black cock is so much bigger/better" is no more flattering than "I love how black people talk" or "mixed people are so much hotter!" and it's a LOT less subtle. It's not a compliment. I know I'm not the only BP who feels this way, even if not all examine the feeling so consciously (okay: obsessively, LOL).<br /><br />The OP writes of black doms who later "feel guilty for holding a position of power over white men, even if it’s only sexually and for brief periods of time." I must say, I have <i>never</i> heard of this. I think there <i>is</i> often a feeling of guilt— but I submit that it's about <i>playing that racist role.</i> It's the same guilt black actors talk about feeling when they take roles that are obvious racist caricatures— it's <i><b>jigging.</b></i> It feels dirty. It feels like treason and it feels like servitude. It's fucking humiliating. [to be continued…]workneveroverhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14588702060677420109noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19215166.post-46275004026721387532012-06-29T11:33:15.200-04:002012-06-29T11:33:15.200-04:00I just love the idea of a submissive man in genera...I just love the idea of a submissive man in general I guess because of my personality. However, the thought of domination over a white man is the ultimate turn on for me the power to control his movement's and possibly even some of his reactions to what I'm doing and or saying to him is most satisfying in my wildest of dreams. Hopefully someday I will find him . Until then I'll just dream.dsshy3https://www.blogger.com/profile/10075625290777507222noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19215166.post-19915479075979899462012-06-29T11:18:37.539-04:002012-06-29T11:18:37.539-04:00I am a 37 yr old black woman and though I've n...I am a 37 yr old black woman and though I've never had the pleasure of a white man I've always wanted it. The thought of domination over him turns me on in ways I can't even speak of. The power to control him his movement and possibly even his reactions to what I'm doing or saying to him would give me a high like nothing else in this world.dsshy3https://www.blogger.com/profile/10075625290777507222noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19215166.post-8161667362478558192012-05-23T11:05:36.827-04:002012-05-23T11:05:36.827-04:00Why would you prefer to dominate a Black man? Jus...Why would you prefer to dominate a Black man? Just curious.AfroerotiKhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17426843368352368800noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19215166.post-74119039985084089132012-05-22T16:45:16.480-04:002012-05-22T16:45:16.480-04:00All of my experience in femdom has been with white...All of my experience in femdom has been with white men. I would love to have a black submissive, but they seem to be very unavailable. I suspect they exist, but I have no idea where. I have met two in my life. <br /><br />I desire to interact with a submissive man, and really, their race is not really the deciding factor. Their desire to submit to me is what is important to me.<br /><br />Yes, I am a Black woman.MsNaydihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15991393424657367644noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19215166.post-76346614539745857202012-04-26T22:59:29.437-04:002012-04-26T22:59:29.437-04:00This article is right on. I myself am a married w...This article is right on. I myself am a married white male. Very successful and have been involved in the swinging lifestyle. As a couple we have come to love, submitting to Alpha Black males. Both of us... and I love submitting to Black Women.cplnmbschttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12058866246345045209noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19215166.post-16498262844581203132012-03-31T18:20:46.286-04:002012-03-31T18:20:46.286-04:00I'd be more than happy to give you some advice...I'd be more than happy to give you some advice/feedback but I have to caution you to be VERY careful. There is something mentally wrong with most submissive white men so they can be loose cannons.AfroerotiKhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17426843368352368800noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19215166.post-1975563481152750682012-03-30T20:14:14.639-04:002012-03-30T20:14:14.639-04:00I am very interested in this subject, I have been ...I am very interested in this subject, I have been discussing this subject with a white male who wants to be my oral slave, I am a black BBW, and he states that is what he needs/want. We have been emailing and sending pictures constantly and he has asked me to spank him, talk dirty, call him names, (little dick, cunt slut, etc), tie him up, withhold and/or tease him so he will beg to eat my pussy/ass, I have never been with a white man before or been domineering in a sexual relationship, but just emailing him has really turned me on and I'm seriously thinking of letting him do it, my problem is we met online and I'm very nervous about having sex with a stranger, but know that if I don't try it with a stranger I will never experience this. I am not finding much information online and he states he has had other black Dom's and was married to one, also stated he would hide in the closet while his wife was fucked by a black man who had a large dick, then call him out to eat her out or suck the man's dick and call him her pussy,,,So I guess I am interested in becoming a Dom's, but only to a white man and more for my own sexual pleasure of having someone adore my pussy so much he would submit at the chance to eat me whenever and wherever...<br /><br />Please contact me with feedback on how to get started becoming a Black BBW Dom<br /><br />spanndenise3@gmail.comAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19215166.post-39886357672352090832011-11-05T09:58:04.033-04:002011-11-05T09:58:04.033-04:00Hi..
I am an older (68) white male, educated, succ...Hi..<br />I am an older (68) white male, educated, successful and attractive (in spite of my age).<br />I have been interested in FemDom and experimented in those relationships, very selectively, for the past 20 years. During that time I quickly found an overwhelming (when safe) desire to submit to only Black Women. I can't say much of substance on the subject because I continue to learn.brianhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10631884920284003911noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19215166.post-58595412220929603282011-08-14T05:15:06.625-04:002011-08-14T05:15:06.625-04:00I have explored domination with white men and I re...I have explored domination with white men and I really enjoy it. Unfortunately, I don't really meet people who I would explore it with in the way that I like. I live in a predominantly white country where racial dynamics play themselves out in ways I am not comfortable with, even/especially in kink. I don't know how to get around this, or even learn use it to my advantage. My domination is largely psychological. Also, like you Scottie, I don't want to wear funny outfits and I didn't set out to make money from it. <br /><br />As to whether there are more black women starting to get into this, the presence of black dominas on websites like fetlife seems to be increasing.Mimihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15079091374153834290noreply@blogger.com